Does living near a good friend a bad idea?

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Does living near a good friend a bad idea?

Post by abbby » Sun, 22 Aug 2021 2:36 pm

I have a friend who intends to buy a place near mine (same building). I do like the convenience but I find that sometimes being too close tends to sour a friendship easily? I mean..it's better to have some 'space' for ourselves. What are your thoughts?
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Re: Does living near a good friend a bad idea?

Post by smoulder » Sun, 22 Aug 2021 2:48 pm

Depends on what you consider as being too close - for me, things like borrowing money or purchasing a home together are examples of being too close. What you described sounds nice.

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Re: Does living near a good friend a bad idea?

Post by bro75 » Mon, 23 Aug 2021 8:38 am

It depends on your culture and your personality. I am from the Philippines and we are very neighborly. We tend to make friends with people who live close by.
A good friend who wants to move nearby is mostly welcome news to us. The key word is "good". A good friend will accept that sometimes you do not want company and sometimes you want to mingle with other friends.

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Re: Does living near a good friend a bad idea?

Post by Lisafuller » Mon, 23 Aug 2021 12:13 pm

bro75 wrote:
Mon, 23 Aug 2021 8:38 am
It depends on your culture and your personality. I am from the Philippines and we are very neighborly. We tend to make friends with people who live close by.
A good friend who wants to move nearby is mostly welcome news to us. The key word is "good". A good friend will accept that sometimes you do not want company and sometimes you want to mingle with other friends.
Great point. A good friend understands that sometimes you need space, and knows where to draw the line.

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Re: Does living near a good friend a bad idea?

Post by Lisafuller » Mon, 23 Aug 2021 12:14 pm

abbby wrote:
Sun, 22 Aug 2021 2:36 pm
I have a friend who intends to buy a place near mine (same building). I do like the convenience but I find that sometimes being too close tends to sour a friendship easily? I mean..it's better to have some 'space' for ourselves. What are your thoughts?
Valid point about being too close for comfort, however if it was a close friend I would welcome the move. It would be nice to have a friend within reach at all times, you never know when you might need each other.

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Re: Does living near a good friend a bad idea?

Post by Sunjackal » Wed, 22 Sep 2021 10:21 am

We moved into the same block as my wife’s cousin. It’s nice. Close by when you feel like being social but an unspoken understanding not to impose on one another.

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Re: Does living near a good friend a bad idea?

Post by Lisafuller » Thu, 23 Sep 2021 2:01 am

Having someone you know nearby can never be a bad thing, when I was younger, all I wanted was to be neighbors with my best friend. And you’re spot on, nothing wrong with being close by but just need to be aware of boundaries.

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