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Poor condo etiquette
I had a frustrating experience with a neighbor recently and just wanted to share. I am lucky to live in a condo with a really large and beautiful pool, and I make it a point to use it at least once a week, both for fitness and for relaxation. It has always been my understanding that pool users should rinse themselves off before entering, for hygiene purposes. It is for this exact reason that the management installed an outdoor shower some years ago. Most residents are respectful and understanding of this rule, and wash themselves off before stepping foot into the water. A few days ago, as I was wrapping up my swim, a really sweaty lady took off her robe and walked towards the pool. I thought she was heading towards the shower, but to my surprise, she tried to enter the swimming pool! A disgusted resident asked that she rinse herself off before entering, to which she responded rudely that she had the right to use the facilities since she pays for them like everyone else. At this point, I chimed in to agree with the resident, but was met with an equally rude response. She proceeded to make a big show about getting in the pool, and at that point I was so fed up that I went home. Have any of you encountered similarly obnoxious neighbors?
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Re: Poor condo etiquette
While I agree it’s nice gesture to rinse off, I have to be honest — there’s a lot of nasty stuff that comes off people’s bodies in the pool, rinse off or not. Just have a gander by the underwater light after dark... after a day of heavy use you will see plenty of hair and dead skin flecks floating around in there, and that’s just what you can see. Regarding sweat, I used to do laps, and after 2-3 laps I would often find myself sweating while swimming, it really couldn’t be helped. And let’s face it, a few people are peeing in it - especially kids, that’s just the reality.
Personally, I feel it is best to put all of this out of your mind or else you’ll just be disgusted and wanna barf. Treat it like eating a hot dog, don’t question or think about it... just enjoy it.
Personally, I feel it is best to put all of this out of your mind or else you’ll just be disgusted and wanna barf. Treat it like eating a hot dog, don’t question or think about it... just enjoy it.
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I see your point, maybe I wasn’t clear enough but my frustration was not so much with the lack of hygiene, but rather her cocky, self-entitled attitude. Why should everyone else follow the rules but not her? We pay for the facilities too, its all about good neighborliness.malcontent wrote: ↑Sun, 11 Apr 2021 11:56 pmWhile I agree it’s nice gesture to rinse off, I have to be honest — there’s a lot of nasty stuff that comes off people’s bodies in the pool, rinse off or not. Just have a gander by the underwater light after dark... after a day of heavy use you will see plenty of hair and dead skin flecks floating around in there, and that’s just what you can see. Regarding sweat, I used to do laps, and after 2-3 laps I would often find myself sweating while swimming, it really couldn’t be helped. And let’s face it, a few people are peeing in it - especially kids, that’s just the reality.
Personally, I feel it is best to put all of this out of your mind or else you’ll just be disgusted and wanna barf. Treat it like eating a hot dog, don’t question or think about it... just enjoy it.
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I fully agree with your disgust... but I try to look at things from a different perspective for a reason - - to keep my own sanity! If I paid attention to every bozo out there who was discourteous and self-entitled, I’d be sitting in a mental institution by now!
I always try to accept things that are outside of my control and focus on what is within my control. I already have enough stress in my life, and will do my utmost not to allow anyone to ratchet that up even a notch. I’ve just got better things to do in life.
Finally, it might be worth noting that as many as 1 out of 25 people in this world are sociopaths... not exactly rare, and there is absolutely nothing we can do to change that.
I always try to accept things that are outside of my control and focus on what is within my control. I already have enough stress in my life, and will do my utmost not to allow anyone to ratchet that up even a notch. I’ve just got better things to do in life.
Finally, it might be worth noting that as many as 1 out of 25 people in this world are sociopaths... not exactly rare, and there is absolutely nothing we can do to change that.
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Poor condo etiquette
I think there are bigger issues to worry about lol
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Re: Poor condo etiquette
THIS. In the past I've seen expats 'self-radicalize' by focusing obsessively on the negatives of living here, only mixing with others who have the same outlook and ending up negatively associating themselves out of a very cushy job and lifestyle here.malcontent wrote: ↑Mon, 12 Apr 2021 2:17 pmI always try to accept things that are outside of my control and focus on what is within my control. I already have enough stress in my life, and will do my utmost not to allow anyone to ratchet that up even a notch. I’ve just got better things to do in life.
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Re: Poor condo etiquette
It was like 20 years ago, a friend of mine was enjoying himself in the condo pool when he noticed a man with a very young kid at the pool. The kid was standing at the edge and unashamedly peeing to the pool. When approached with WTF, the man said, oh, that's just a kid.Lisafuller wrote: ↑Sun, 11 Apr 2021 11:24 pmI had a frustrating experience with a neighbor recently and just wanted to share. I am lucky to live in a condo with a really large and beautiful pool, and I make it a point to use it at least once a week, both for fitness and for relaxation. It has always been my understanding that pool users should rinse themselves off before entering, for hygiene purposes. It is for this exact reason that the management installed an outdoor shower some years ago. Most residents are respectful and understanding of this rule, and wash themselves off before stepping foot into the water. A few days ago, as I was wrapping up my swim, a really sweaty lady took off her robe and walked towards the pool. I thought she was heading towards the shower, but to my surprise, she tried to enter the swimming pool! A disgusted resident asked that she rinse herself off before entering, to which she responded rudely that she had the right to use the facilities since she pays for them like everyone else. At this point, I chimed in to agree with the resident, but was met with an equally rude response. She proceeded to make a big show about getting in the pool, and at that point I was so fed up that I went home. Have any of you encountered similarly obnoxious neighbors?
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Goodness, that’s gross! And awful parenting. We once had a kid take a dump in the kiddie pool; the management ended up draining the entire pool (larger than an olympic sized swimming pool) and had the water replaced. The pool was closed for well over a week.x9200 wrote: ↑Mon, 12 Apr 2021 2:33 pmIt was like 20 years ago, a friend of mine was enjoying himself in the condo pool when he noticed a man with a very young kid at the pool. The kid was standing at the edge and unashamedly peeing to the pool. When approached with WTF, the man said, oh, that's just a kid.Lisafuller wrote: ↑Sun, 11 Apr 2021 11:24 pmI had a frustrating experience with a neighbor recently and just wanted to share. I am lucky to live in a condo with a really large and beautiful pool, and I make it a point to use it at least once a week, both for fitness and for relaxation. It has always been my understanding that pool users should rinse themselves off before entering, for hygiene purposes. It is for this exact reason that the management installed an outdoor shower some years ago. Most residents are respectful and understanding of this rule, and wash themselves off before stepping foot into the water. A few days ago, as I was wrapping up my swim, a really sweaty lady took off her robe and walked towards the pool. I thought she was heading towards the shower, but to my surprise, she tried to enter the swimming pool! A disgusted resident asked that she rinse herself off before entering, to which she responded rudely that she had the right to use the facilities since she pays for them like everyone else. At this point, I chimed in to agree with the resident, but was met with an equally rude response. She proceeded to make a big show about getting in the pool, and at that point I was so fed up that I went home. Have any of you encountered similarly obnoxious neighbors?
(I’m reposting here because I previously posted under the wrong category, not sure how to delete the other post).
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Re: Poor condo etiquette
Don’t get me wrong, I love living here. In fact, I can’t imagine being better off anywhere else during this pandemic. I have always made it a point to mix with the locals, honestly I almost consider myself a local as well. I just wanted to share a really frustrating experience to see if anyone could relate.Addadude wrote: ↑Mon, 12 Apr 2021 2:26 pmTHIS. In the past I've seen expats 'self-radicalize' by focusing obsessively on the negatives of living here, only mixing with others who have the same outlook and ending up negatively associating themselves out of a very cushy job and lifestyle here.malcontent wrote: ↑Mon, 12 Apr 2021 2:17 pmI always try to accept things that are outside of my control and focus on what is within my control. I already have enough stress in my life, and will do my utmost not to allow anyone to ratchet that up even a notch. I’ve just got better things to do in life.
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I generally try to adopt a similar outlook, my patience was just especially short on this day. Also, I’m pretty sure there were more than 25 people there, if you get what I’m saying.malcontent wrote: ↑Mon, 12 Apr 2021 2:17 pmI fully agree with your disgust... but I try to look at things from a different perspective for a reason - - to keep my own sanity! If I paid attention to every bozo out there who was discourteous and self-entitled, I’d be sitting in a mental institution by now!
I always try to accept things that are outside of my control and focus on what is within my control. I already have enough stress in my life, and will do my utmost not to allow anyone to ratchet that up even a notch. I’ve just got better things to do in life.
Finally, it might be worth noting that as many as 1 out of 25 people in this world are sociopaths... not exactly rare, and there is absolutely nothing we can do to change that.
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100% can relate.
Just this weekend I encountered this aussie dirt bag who was cycling like mad max in the marina area and made an incredibly rude remark to me after I had accidentally swerved a bit toward his path just to keep my balance. My son and I talked about it afterwards and we both agreed that we feel sorry for the guy, he sure didn’t seem like a happy person at all.
Just this weekend I encountered this aussie dirt bag who was cycling like mad max in the marina area and made an incredibly rude remark to me after I had accidentally swerved a bit toward his path just to keep my balance. My son and I talked about it afterwards and we both agreed that we feel sorry for the guy, he sure didn’t seem like a happy person at all.
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Sounds suspiciously like my condo.Lisafuller wrote: ↑Mon, 12 Apr 2021 2:49 pmWe once had a kid take a dump in the kiddie pool; the management ended up draining the entire pool (larger than an olympic sized swimming pool) and had the water replaced. The pool was closed for well over a week.
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We had one family that insisted on bringing food INTO the pool. Eating crisps and drinking beer....
I notified management of this, and they did send out notification on etiquette.
I’d also consider pretending to take a piss next to such people...
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I notified management of this, and they did send out notification on etiquette.
I’d also consider pretending to take a piss next to such people...
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That's exactly how to do it. Escalate to your MA or MC. Better yet be on friendly terms with your MC president.BBCDoc wrote: ↑Mon, 12 Apr 2021 6:16 pmWe had one family that insisted on bringing food INTO the pool. Eating crisps and drinking beer....
I notified management of this, and they did send out notification on etiquette.
I’d also consider pretending to take a piss next to such people...
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Hahaha, I live in the Bukit Timah area.malcontent wrote: ↑Mon, 12 Apr 2021 3:21 pmSounds suspiciously like my condo.Lisafuller wrote: ↑Mon, 12 Apr 2021 2:49 pmWe once had a kid take a dump in the kiddie pool; the management ended up draining the entire pool (larger than an olympic sized swimming pool) and had the water replaced. The pool was closed for well over a week.
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