Don't worry Lisa, I've been on this board for 16 years and it's always like that. I could never figure out why either. doG knows if it came out bad, I wouldn't want anybody there to see me like that. They can't go into surgery with you so why go at all?
What she needs is a male buddy to check her out before she goes and get his impression on whether she need augmentation or not. Most will reject it. She might get a surprise at how many of us are like the Energizer Bunny. A couple of AAs will keep us going all night long.