I notice that other girls/women look at me sometimes when I go out and the reason could be cos they may like what I wear and look like or they may simply think I'm someone they might know. It can be a little unnerving but most often I just don't think so much of it at the time. But I also notice that some girls/women react in such an affected way, like suddenly burst out laughing or laughing in a somewhat forced manner. Are they actually trying to make me feel belittled by the way I look? I bet I'm not the only person who gets these reactions, looks and affected laughs. 8) Not always but does happen once in a while
Once, I wore a short almost see-through dress and boots which I got from US and believe aren't sold here in Singapore. Sounds cool huh? It's nothing too slutty or too in-your-face as 'see-through' might sound and my boyfriend and my friends and cousin and her friends liked it so I believe I didn't look... well, laughable.There was this bunch of girls suddenly laughing out loud and making unkind comments in Mandarin behind me thinking I couldn't understand. Or when I wore this lovely tube dress with my huge shades... same type of reaction, or a long skirt worn as tube dress with big boho belt and what I call my Jesus sandles, nothing outlandish no? 8) there's a pair of girls walking towards me, staring, and then when I'm near enough, they burst out laughing, and said something like "...step kurus". And by the way, what does the term 'step' mean? I know 'kurus' mean slim, thin or skinny in Malay and I know the young Malays like to use this term. Maybe these people have their own idea of looking good and if they see you in something different they will try to make you feel uncomfortable with your choice of dressing. Perhaps, that's why some people here have a rather 'safe' follower sense of dressing. I know, there are also people who just can't be bothered.
Well, well... au contraire, I've worn a black shirt with jeans and accessorized with a scarf around my neck and wore aviators and my fave peep-toe heels - sounds more 'safe' now, no? I still got a bunch of young Malay guys commenting something and my boyfriend told me later at home that he noticed how some people actually looked at me. And that actually wasn't the first time but he just didn't tell me too often lest my ego gets too supersized. 8) Well, I like it when others admire the way I look especially when I feel great about myself, who wouldn't? And no, my style is neither shocking nor hilarious and I'm just skinny, no big boobs, big tush or big hair whatsoever. But laughing to belittle me? Well, I'm not offended or bothered by it, in fact, I'm rather amused that I could actually get such reactions from some people, particularly the females.
But of course it's competition even in this department. I guess if one sees another who's better, one may want to do whatever just to get the other down, even by that little moment of passing disparaging remarks or hammed-up gigglings and cacklings audible enough to the self-esteem.
When I see another person looking real fabulous sometimes I'll look and smile and sometimes raise my eyebrows a little at him/her, you know, like hey hey, take a look at you... if he/she actually notices me admiring them. Yeah, I've had my fair share of complements too. That's just really nice... And has it ever occured to me that I could have actually appeared ridiculous or somewhat contrived myself? Hmm... I'm yet to have someone honest enough to come up to me and tell me that. Well, even if people don't like others' appearances for whatever reasons they should still be polite enough to just not say or mean or force anything just to try to hurt others' feelings - courtesy lah.
I just want to share these observations of mine and maybe have some people talk about similar incidents cos you may have experienced or seen this yourselves, right grrrls? And I believe we'd like to hear some stories from you boys too. 8)
