So I am at 29 year old girl who made a career switch working at one of Singapore’s casino. I met this 43-year-old Malaysian guy working there as a supervisor this year. And because I am still relatively young and only been in this industry for 1 year, I went in to the company unprepared and got bullied by many people there.
I was so upset that in a fit of rage, I got into a fight with the manager and one week later I threw in my resignation. Now the work was Very stressful for me and 3 days before my last day, I met up with the director and the manager to tell them that I wanted to withdraw my resignation.
The director told me that this was not possible and proceeded to hand me the ‘Acceptance of Resignation’ letter and told me that I am not the right person for the job.
To be frank, this job was very stressful for me as I did not expect certain elements of the job. She told me to leave immediately when I still had 3 days before my last day. I told her that I would be happy to complete my 3 days because I wanted to say goodbye to my friends and also to get this guy’s number. The director denied my request and I am now out of the company without his contact number.
Now I do not know for sure whether he is absolutely single. I have lost contact with him for a month but I still have very strong feelings for him and I can’t help but want to go back to the company and tolerate the things that I hate because I want to near him and get to know him. I know this is very foolish of me to disregard my well-being for someone that I barely know yet.
I have also asked myself What are the reasons (besides him) I want to return to that job? Will I be able to withstand the job or will I end up quitting again? What if I spend so many years at that job and then I realise that he is married?
The last thing I want to hear is to move on. For me although the job is stressful, but there are so many people working there I can make friends and who knows also find a partner there. From The workplace, I can know how a person deals with stress, his personality and habits, vices. It’s way better than online dating or meeting a stranger outside whom I totally don’t know his personality or habits.
Anyone out there can give me advice on how I should handle this matter? What are the precautions or actions or questions I must ask myself if I want to go back? What can I do to protect myself at the casino?
xoxo
Jo