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Crying when Climax

Postby NothingBySex » Tue, 15 Feb 2005 4:19 pm

I have this problem with my gf.
It is the first time we have sex after 3 months together. Yesterday, it was valentine day, both of us were in good mood and we know we love each other very much. We (or she) decided to have our first sex.
Out of my surpraise, when she reach her climax (she is not virgin), she cry!!! I stoped and asked her why immediately. she said, she cannot control when she reached her climax, she didn't wanna cried, but it is out of her control.
I wonder if any of gals out there has same expenrience? I personally don't understand what's going on, but it is really make me shock. I wondering if everytime we have sex and she end up crying everytime:)
If you know why and what's going on, please tell me. thanks



Postby also » Tue, 15 Feb 2005 5:49 pm

happened to me, too.

a very few times - when the mood was too soft and when he was too good :wink:

better than

Postby better than » Wed, 16 Feb 2005 12:48 am

had an ex that bites when she cum big time. with previous girls, i sometimes like to seal our cumming with a lip lock .. fark, can u imagine the freakin pain when she bit me mouth! after that bloody experience, i always have to push her away when either of us cum .. looking back, seems so funny.

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Postby Bafana » Wed, 16 Feb 2005 2:41 pm

Enjoy it - Why stop...

Whatever makes her happy should be a bonus to you and take some of the pressure of your own preformance lah...


it's normal

Postby angelique » Wed, 16 Feb 2005 3:27 pm

In relation to crying at the point of climax or orgasm, it is in my experience a completely normal part of the orgasmic process. Orgasms are achieved via the successful build up of sexual tension in the body which are released at the appropriate moment, also known as the climax.

Eastern wisdom on the art of sexuality and orgasms describes this process as Kundalini rising which is the build up of energy from the base chakra located in the pelvic region, which rises up thru the body on both sides thru each of the seven chakras (or energy centres located in the body) The release of this energy provides the feelings of euphoria and bliss as a result of being temporarily in a state of no-mind as the energy is released thru the crown chakra on the top of the head.

The feelings are intense and the result of much release of energy, which is also something that happens when we sneeze or release grief (crying) as all emotions are made up of energy. Sexual orgasms are the result of the release of physical tension (energy) and emotional tension (also energy)

For many the easiest way to express this feeling of release is to cry. Most often people who experience the crying do not know why they are crying because they are not sad, but rather it is like crying thru joy. It is just a way to release the energy negative or positive.

If the person has been withholding much sadness and grief in their life, sexual orgasm will often be the relief valve to release the negative energy of sadness and emotional pain. It very much depends on how the individuals body chemistry is configured to self heal.

As one continues to explore their own personal sexual growth, you can discover that there are many many different types of orgasm and/or climax. It is said for the ultimate orgasm all the chakras of the body need to healthy and open. If the heart chakra is damaged (broken heart) or closed (for self protection) then the emotional part of the orgasm will not be so intense. It very much depends on the individual and how aware they are of their own body, feelings and sensations. Like how some people are very emotional whilst others are not.

There is a huge amount to learn in the area of human sexuality and if one aspires to understand or improve their experience of sexuality, there are many resources available, from western clinical studies to eastern spiritual studies like tantra.

So I hope this helps people understand that pretty well everything that happens during sex is normal and as long as the participants are not distressed or violated in anyway, you can relax knowing that it is quite normal and your sex life is ok.

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Postby pastrian.allac » Wed, 16 Feb 2005 3:29 pm

I encountered before too.. guess only once. I was surprised as well why I cried. I guess it's perfectly normal perhaps =)

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