Singaporeans don't socialize muchAmericanWereWolf wrote:Someone please help me understand this. I have been in SG for 4 days. I am American, bi-racial (1/2 black, 1/2 white) 6 feet 2 inches tall and have straight hair. I dress nicely, speak respectfully, lower my head when I pass people and am always polite. I occasionally wear earrings and have a slight stubble beard. Every since I got here people seem to be giving me the death stare. My Wife is Korean and I understand that when an Asian person sees another Asian with a black persons there may be some intolerance. However when I am standing by myself or walking casually with her ( as if we may be friends) people still seem to look at me that way. It's never shop owners or wait staff or any professionals but rather just people on the street ( mainly Chinese Singaporeans). Honestly, I'm hurt because I love this country and really want to fit in and be accepted. I just need to know if they are being this way because of something I am doing that is offensive and I am unaware or if my race and appearance alone are the cause. Someone please help, let me know your experience or shed some light. My Wife and I don't really know many people here and I don't know who I capfuls aske besides strangers.
I really suspect this may be the problem. You are basically oversensitive in that respect. Please, don't get me wrong, I am not saying you have no reasons, but it seems, you came over to Singapore already sensitized to how people around may perceive you, and you had some connected expectations and hopes.AmericanWereWolf wrote:Thank you for your time and I certainly appreciate your reply. I agree with you 100%. I know that Singaporeans are reserved and that it is hard and time consuming to make friends here. I accept that. My problem is that I am not trying to make friends or social contacts. I simply want to walk down the street or eat at a Hawker center without random people glaring at me like I have to plague. Am I missing something here? Are Singaporeans just like that to people they don't know, like grilling in New York, or is there a major racism issue here? It's important to me because that is exactly why I want to leave the US. But since I have arrived here it seems that I am being viewed as a pariah by the locals and I can't figure out what I have done to offend them.....
+1PNGMK wrote:Looking (staring with no facial expression) at people out of curiousity is not rude here.
LOL. I don't know, but compared to Singapore, have seen more folks in Nearby countries stare at me like I am some exotic breed, and I am not even whitex9200 wrote:Some Singaporeans are of course racists like within any other society but I have never seen it manifesting such blatant way to show it right in your face when passing one by. This is IMHO against their culture, especially for the Chinese.
I thought this was not so common here, maybe OP hasn't travelled a lot in the region ?PNGMK wrote:Looking (staring with no facial expression) at people out of curiousity is not rude here.
The Ref wrote:Given you nic, and that it is almost full moon, I have an ideaAmericanWereWolf wrote:S.... and have a slight stubble beard...
I heard of the above, but never been to Korea, so didn't dare say it out loud !!!!casey5047 wrote:Have you been to Korea before, and how were your experiences there? Generally speaking, I found Koreans to be racist. (I've never seen a bar in Singapore saying 'no black people,' because it will upset the local Korean customers, who are worried about contracting ebola).
Pal wrote:Hang around in this forum everyday
You will learn the Singaporean way in no time!
Perhaps pick up a little Singlish to blend in with Singaporeans around you?
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