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MOTHER I LOVE YOU

Postby Guest » Tue, 08 Feb 2005 7:16 am

MOTHER I WILL ALWAYS MISS YOU. YOU WILL ALWAYS BE IN MY HEART.

What a wonderful life!!!! How carefree your chilhoods must have been full of creative and adventurous activities.. Where were you born, exactly :?:iI mean are you a singaporean?

I often heard my dear mother telling us her childhood experiences and it use to immediately transport me to a completely another world. Her stories used to play havoc on my mind for days and weeks. For at least the next few days i used to relive her fantasic childhood days in my own mind and imagine all sorts of wonderful fantasies, the childhood mysteries and so on!!!!

I remember her telling us a special story about her little puppy which her dear father had bought for her. She was totally besotted with him and when he died she could not sleep,eat or read for a long long time. She said this was the first bereavement experience in her life. It took her ages to come to terms with the loss of her puppy. Incidently he fell from a very high building to his death right before her very eyes and she couldn't do a thing to revive him......so sad.

Unfortunately I lost my beloved mother two and a half years ago and I miss her totally. she was such a kind lady and very caring and loving mother to all of us. She never treated us differently and her love for all of us was completely unconditional. I miss her so terribly. She was in her late sixties and had heart condition. May god rest her soul in peace.

I often think how special these mother2children relationships are. There are no other relationships to match them. For me my mother represented god to me in a human form, and there is nothing in this world that can ever replace her or her love for us all or the special relationship we had with her.

Most of what you say in your letter is very familiar to me because these are some of the experiences she used to tell us about her childhood when we were growing up. She had a very carefree, loving and adventurous childhood. She was very close to her parents and siblings. Mother never complained about anything to us or at least that is how we remember now. Now she is gone... I wonder where she might be and whether she is happy and looking down over us to see that we are all ok.

How right they are when they say, 'Paradise is right beneath our mothers' feet' :!:


I suppose my mother was a special person exactly... because of the type of childhood she had and it was more or less exactly the way you have potrayed it to us. It was WONDERFUL.

Thank you for bringing the memories of my mother and her childhood back to my mind once again. Thank you.

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Postby Guest » Tue, 08 Feb 2005 8:39 am

How sad :(

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Re: MOTHER I LOVE YOU

Postby Guest » Tue, 08 Feb 2005 8:45 am

Anonymous wrote:MOTHER I WILL ALWAYS MISS YOU. YOU WILL ALWAYS BE IN MY HEART.

What a wonderful life!!!! How carefree your chilhoods must have been full of creative and adventurous activities.. Where were you born, exactly :?:iI mean are you a singaporean?

I often heard my dear mother telling us her childhood experiences and it use to immediately transport me to a completely another world. Her stories used to play havoc on my mind for days and weeks. For at least the next few days i used to relive her fantasic childhood days in my own mind and imagine all sorts of wonderful fantasies, the childhood mysteries and so on!!!!

I remember her telling us a special story about her little puppy which her dear father had bought for her. She was totally besotted with him and when he died she could not sleep,eat or read for a long long time. She said this was the first bereavement experience in her life. It took her ages to come to terms with the loss of her puppy. Incidently he fell from a very high building to his death right before her very eyes and she couldn't do a thing to revive him......so sad.

Unfortunately I lost my beloved mother two and a half years ago and I miss her totally. she was such a kind lady and very caring and loving mother to all of us. She never treated us differently and her love for all of us was completely unconditional. I miss her so terribly. She was in her late sixties and had heart condition. May god rest her soul in peace.

I often think how special these mother2children relationships are. There are no other relationships to match them. For me my mother represented god to me in a human form, and there is nothing in this world that can ever replace her or her love for us all or the special relationship we had with her.

Most of what you say in your letter is very familiar to me because these are some of the experiences she used to tell us about her childhood when we were growing up. She had a very carefree, loving and adventurous childhood. She was very close to her parents and siblings. Mother never complained about anything to us or at least that is how we remember now. Now she is gone... I wonder where she might be and whether she is happy and looking down over us to see that we are all ok.

How right they are when they say, 'Paradise is right beneath our mothers' feet' :!:


I suppose my mother was a special person exactly... because of the type of childhood she had and it was more or less exactly the way you have potrayed it to us. It was WONDERFUL.

Thank you for bringing the memories of my mother and her childhood back to my mind once again. Thank you.


So sad lah :( :cry: lah :cry:

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Postby specialist » Tue, 08 Feb 2005 8:48 am

Really sad :(

Bubbs

Postby Bubbs » Tue, 08 Feb 2005 9:33 am

Hi

It's not much comfort I know, but this poem by Anne Bronte called Farewell is beautiful....

Farewell to Thee! But not farewell
To all my fondest thoughts of Thee;
Within my heart they still shall dwell
And they shall cheer and comfort me.

Life seems more sweet that Thou didst live
And men more true that Thou wert one;
Nothing is lost that Thou didst give,
Nothing destroyed that Thou hast done.


The pain does lessen, but I won't lie, it never goes away completely. I know, I lost my mum many years ago and not a day goes by when I don't think of her. But no tears any more, so be kind to yourself.

Bubbs.

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Postby Bafana » Tue, 08 Feb 2005 12:01 pm

Arghhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh...

When will the voice in my head stop...

Blah blah touchy feel good blah blah blah.

BTW I love my mother too (But don't tell anyone alright 8) )

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Thank you Bubbs

Postby Guest » Tue, 08 Feb 2005 3:39 pm

Bubbs wrote:Hi

It's not much comfort I know, but this poem by Anne Bronte called Farewell is beautiful....

Farewell to Thee! But not farewell
To all my fondest thoughts of Thee;
Within my heart they still shall dwell
And they shall cheer and comfort me.

Life seems more sweet that Thou didst live
And men more true that Thou wert one;
Nothing is lost that Thou didst give,
Nothing destroyed that Thou hast done.


The pain does lessen, but I won't lie, it never goes away completely. I know, I lost my mum many years ago and not a day goes by when I don't think of her. But no tears any more, so be kind to yourself.

Bubbs.



Thank you, for your kind words :(

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Postby Guest » Tue, 08 Feb 2005 10:05 pm

Mothers are very special people. I lost my mother two years ago as well. My whole world crumbled into tiny peices and I felt like a zombie for a long time. She was a very special person and loved us all dearly. We loved her too...very much.

We can never forget our mothers ...... BUT with time we can all heal ourselves, although we can never forget her love and loss. Never. :(

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wish i have a share of the pain too

Postby Blessed Pain » Tue, 08 Feb 2005 10:33 pm

I am touched to hear the love you had for your mum..
I tried and tried but its a complete BLANK..
Give me something.. anything. to remember
No memories of mum.. No memories of dad.. they left too soon.
They died in their mid 30s.. Use to think God is cruel but then.. ...this is my life package.. Others are packaged differentlyt, You are blessed to be able to feel.the love you, to feel the pain of the loss

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Re: wish i have a share of the pain too

Postby Guest » Tue, 08 Feb 2005 11:24 pm

Blessed Pain wrote:I am touched to hear the love you had for your mum..
I tried and tried but its a complete BLANK..
Give me something.. anything. to remember
No memories of mum.. No memories of dad.. they left too soon.
They died in their mid 30s.. Use to think God is cruel but then.. ...this is my life package.. Others are packaged differentlyt, You are blessed to be able to feel.the love you, to feel the pain of the loss


I am also very deeply touched by what you say..... I feel very sad for you too :(

How did they die :?: How old were you when they died :?: Where did they die?

I am available if you wish to talk.

no more self pity

thanks for listening

Postby no more self pity » Wed, 09 Feb 2005 12:54 am

My parents were farmers and we live in a small village. My dad was electricuted during a bad thunderstrom when I was two and mum followed two years later with some kind of sickness?? Loneliness of missing my dad??? Dont know.. My sibling and I, six of us were raised by our grandparents, who have also passed on years ago. What an exausting lifejourney for the old folks.. and I though there is little exchange of gentle and kind words, I love them dearly for looking after us.

I left home, before I reach 15 years, bunking over different friends' home till I got a more permanent place at a work quarters of a fast food chain. I continued schooling and working and send money back to the old folks. My classmates used to laugh at how I would fall asleep during lessons, failing my exams, pretending to be strong when I am not..

Often broke, hungry and lonely, and there is this one night when I was feeling so darn tired and its my turn to clean up the quarters, I broke down. I looked out the window...and saw the a sex worker, an indian lady with her wornout sarong, standing by the dirty road beside the drain and a group of youngsters was making not so nice jokes and throwing stones at her. Its not a nice sight but that moment taught me to stop thinking and behaving as if I am the saddest story on earth...for there always others who are going through more difficult times.

During my very rare visit back I never fail to visit the area and wonder where is she now? For her existent at the point of time and her plight had taught me something.

I hardly think about my past or my parents, but the original post managed to trigger some emotions in me, which is nice, cos I need to know that I am capable of feeling still..

Thanks for your offer for a listening ear..

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Postby Bubbles » Wed, 09 Feb 2005 1:58 am

This is a very sad topic, isn't it? Unfortunately it's one which most of us will face, in time. Some of us face it years before they should, God forbid.

There are degrees of mourning, stages, of course there are. That awful time when it just has happened, and you're in shock, and go running around like a mad person sorting out funeral arrangements....in fact, it's meant to be like that....to stop you going insane. All that stuff to do.

But the worse part is a few weeks afterward.....when you find things like their shoes where you can still feel the indentations of their toes....I know that's a silly thing, but it's just that sort of thing that gets to you. Or a coat or jumper of theirs, with the perfume still on it....ahh, such bad times.

Then on it goes....the deep depression of the realization that they are never coming back, and that you just have to get on with it. A gap in your life, gaping.

But it does slowly heal. Like when you have a sore on your arm and the edges are raw, then crust over, then slowly creep towards each other and mend.

You won't know know that there will be days when you can laugh about some of the things she did, or said.....and then there is the long haul....years later....when it hits you again, unexpectedly....

That comes when you are nearing the age when your mum died...mine died young.....and you realise...she was just a woman, like yourself, with all her faults and dreams....and WHY ISN'T SHE STILL HERE....TO SHARE THE THINGS SHE MISSED?

Ah, I don't know the answer....all I know is that of course, everyone must die, and who are we to be surprised when one of our own does? Millions die each year, some just tiny babies.

But it makes no difference to grief. And only you can live through it. In YOUR way.

Now, when I do something new, or see something beautiful, or something good happens, I think, 'Mum, I'm doing this for you.'.....After all, she was all that stood between me and the stars, and hopefully, with the correct order of things.....it will be my turn next, and not the dreadful queue hopping which happens when a child dies before a parent.

I hope it's not for years yet, but what do any of us know. We can only do our best, and be kind, and enjoy life.

Sorry, didn't mean this to be miserable, but it's an important post, this.

My thoughts are with you.
Bubbs.

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Postby Guest » Wed, 09 Feb 2005 6:14 am

Bubbles your post has touched my soul :!: It does not matter how much we share our grief with others.....but that feeling of emptiness within our hearts is still there. It is very nice of you share your thoughts with us.

Thank you. :)

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Re: MOTHER I LOVE YOU

Postby ALWAYSANDFOREVER » Thu, 10 Feb 2005 5:19 pm

Anonymous wrote:MOTHER I WILL ALWAYS MISS YOU. YOU WILL ALWAYS BE IN MY HEART.

What a wonderful life!!!! How carefree your chilhoods must have been full of creative and adventurous activities.. Where were you born, exactly :?:iI mean are you a singaporean?

I often heard my dear mother telling us her childhood experiences and it use to immediately transport me to a completely another world. Her stories used to play havoc on my mind for days and weeks. For at least the next few days i used to relive her fantasic childhood days in my own mind and imagine all sorts of wonderful fantasies, the childhood mysteries and so on!!!!

I remember her telling us a special story about her little puppy which her dear father had bought for her. She was totally besotted with him and when he died she could not sleep,eat or read for a long long time. She said this was the first bereavement experience in her life. It took her ages to come to terms with the loss of her puppy. Incidently he fell from a very high building to his death right before her very eyes and she couldn't do a thing to revive him......so sad.

Unfortunately I lost my beloved mother two and a half years ago and I miss her totally. she was such a kind lady and very caring and loving mother to all of us. She never treated us differently and her love for all of us was completely unconditional. I miss her so terribly. She was in her late sixties and had heart condition. May god rest her soul in peace.

I often think how special these mother2children relationships are. There are no other relationships to match them. For me my mother represented god to me in a human form, and there is nothing in this world that can ever replace her or her love for us all or the special relationship we had with her.

Most of what you say in your letter is very familiar to me because these are some of the experiences she used to tell us about her childhood when we were growing up. She had a very carefree, loving and adventurous childhood. She was very close to her parents and siblings. Mother never complained about anything to us or at least that is how we remember now. Now she is gone... I wonder where she might be and whether she is happy and looking down over us to see that we are all ok.

How right they are when they say, 'Paradise is right beneath our mothers' feet' :!:


I suppose my mother was a special person exactly... because of the type of childhood she had and it was more or less exactly the way you have potrayed it to us. It was WONDERFUL.

Thank you for bringing the memories of my mother and her childhood back to my mind once again. Thank you.


I loved my mother very much too. I still miss her very, very much :(

I have no words to describe my pain :cry:

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Re: MOTHER I LOVE YOU

Postby kindgirl » Sun, 13 Feb 2005 5:54 am

ALWAYSANDFOREVER wrote:
Anonymous wrote:MOTHER I WILL ALWAYS MISS YOU. YOU WILL ALWAYS BE IN MY HEART.

What a wonderful life!!!! How carefree your chilhoods must have been full of creative and adventurous activities.. Where were you born, exactly :?:iI mean are you a singaporean?

I often heard my dear mother telling us her childhood experiences and it use to immediately transport me to a completely another world. Her stories used to play havoc on my mind for days and weeks. For at least the next few days i used to relive her fantasic childhood days in my own mind and imagine all sorts of wonderful fantasies, the childhood mysteries and so on!!!!

I remember her telling us a special story about her little puppy which her dear father had bought for her. She was totally besotted with him and when he died she could not sleep,eat or read for a long long time. She said this was the first bereavement experience in her life. It took her ages to come to terms with the loss of her puppy. Incidently he fell from a very high building to his death right before her very eyes and she couldn't do a thing to revive him......so sad.

Unfortunately I lost my beloved mother two and a half years ago and I miss her totally. she was such a kind lady and very caring and loving mother to all of us. She never treated us differently and her love for all of us was completely unconditional. I miss her so terribly. She was in her late sixties and had heart condition. May god rest her soul in peace.

I often think how special these mother2children relationships are. There are no other relationships to match them. For me my mother represented god to me in a human form, and there is nothing in this world that can ever replace her or her love for us all or the special relationship we had with her.

Most of what you say in your letter is very familiar to me because these are some of the experiences she used to tell us about her childhood when we were growing up. She had a very carefree, loving and adventurous childhood. She was very close to her parents and siblings. Mother never complained about anything to us or at least that is how we remember now. Now she is gone... I wonder where she might be and whether she is happy and looking down over us to see that we are all ok.

How right they are when they say, 'Paradise is right beneath our mothers' feet' :!:


I suppose my mother was a special person exactly... because of the type of childhood she had and it was more or less exactly the way you have potrayed it to us. It was WONDERFUL.

Thank you for bringing the memories of my mother and her childhood back to my mind once again. Thank you.


I loved my mother very much too. I still miss her very, very much :(

I have no words to describe my pain :cry:


mums are special souls and thank heavens for having them.


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