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ffs - maid thinks she's pregnant

Postby PNGMK » Fri, 10 Feb 2017 2:08 pm

She's an unmarried or divorced Flip. She's 40 for God's sake.
I sent her out to go buy a pregnancy test.
From everything I've read the only real option is to get her home before her next medical is due (28th Feb)?

I'm not paying nor getting involved in discussions about termination.
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Re: RE: ffs - maid thinks she's pregnant

Postby ecureilx » Fri, 10 Feb 2017 2:24 pm

PNGMK wrote:She's an unmarried or divorced Flip. She's 40 for God's sake.
I sent her out to go buy a pregnancy test.
From everything I've read the only real option is to get her home before her next medical is due (28th Feb)?

I'm not paying nor getting involved in discussions about termination.


yes, send her home before the next medical.

Other than termination (which Is not an option in this case.. ) nothing much can be done.

PS. Who's the father ?

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Postby PNGMK » Fri, 10 Feb 2017 2:30 pm

ecureilx wrote:
PNGMK wrote:She's an unmarried or divorced Flip. She's 40 for God's sake.
I sent her out to go buy a pregnancy test.
From everything I've read the only real option is to get her home before her next medical is due (28th Feb)?

I'm not paying nor getting involved in discussions about termination.


yes, send her home before the next medical.

Other than termination (which Is not an option in this case.. ) nothing much can be done.

PS. Who's the father ?


some bloody banglah of course
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Re: RE: Re: RE: ffs - maid thinks she's pregnant

Postby ecureilx » Fri, 10 Feb 2017 2:58 pm

PNGMK wrote:some bloody banglah of course


maybe not ..

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Postby PNGMK » Fri, 10 Feb 2017 3:02 pm

ecureilx wrote:
PNGMK wrote:some bloody banglah of course


maybe not ..


She said it was a banglah... and had the decency to look deeply ashamed.
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Re: ffs - maid thinks she's pregnant

Postby rajagainstthemachine » Sun, 12 Feb 2017 10:38 am

Not good for yiur blood pressure aye? :???: #-o
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Postby ecureilx » Sun, 12 Feb 2017 12:16 pm

rajagainstthemachine wrote:Not good for yiur blood pressure aye? :???: #-o

Only if he had a hand in it ;)

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Re: ffs - maid thinks she's pregnant

Postby PNGMK » Sun, 12 Feb 2017 6:47 pm

Fortunately my wife has been involved, and in fact she was the first person my maid told. I have ask my wife to be 100% the contact person with the the FDW. I don't stay at home w the FDW on our own. Apparently the risk of allegations is quite high. She will be gone in 2 weeks when her medical is due. She asked for us to wait to see if she miscarries in the mean time. We have not and will not inform MOM so she avoids being black listed. She's 40 and not likely to fall pregnant again when she returns in a year or so.

From a personal point of view I find the Singapore system to be evil. It pushes maids into considering abortion instead of permitting them to stay and work until they are ready to return home to give birth. I don't know what this lady will ultimately do but my wife says she has indicated giving the child up for adoption back in the PI although I believe the Bangladeshi has agreed to support her which may change her mind.
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Re: ffs - maid thinks she's pregnant

Postby x9200 » Sun, 12 Feb 2017 7:02 pm

Judging how the FDWs are in average treated in Singapore, permitting them to stay and work while being pregnant sounds like not a good idea neither.

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Postby PNGMK » Sun, 12 Feb 2017 8:06 pm

x9200 wrote:Judging how the FDWs are in average treated in Singapore, permitting them to stay and work while being pregnant sounds like not a good idea neither.

Assault and or depriving a maid of food are regularly prosecuted here. Medical issues however may be problematic.
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Re: ffs - maid thinks she's pregnant

Postby x9200 » Sun, 12 Feb 2017 8:25 pm

PNGMK wrote:
x9200 wrote:Judging how the FDWs are in average treated in Singapore, permitting them to stay and work while being pregnant sounds like not a good idea neither.

Assault and or depriving a maid of food are regularly prosecuted here. Medical issues however may be problematic.

These women work physically often lifting or carrying heavy objects, shopping bags, cleaning windows standing on the ladder..... Will the local employers be so understanding to their current state?


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