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Boyfriend got job offer- can I join him

Post by RoseLyn1 » Wed, 28 Sep 2016 5:07 pm

Hello

Situation: My boyfriend got offered a job in Singapore.
We are together for about 2 years and living together for one. He is French, I am German, and we are living in France. Both early 30s.
The job will be in sales, 40h a week, 5 days Monday through Sunday, working hours can range from 10am to 11pm.
1. If he decides to take the job, can I join him? ( we are NOT married)
2. Is 5k/month enough to live on for 2 people?

I worked as a teacher here in France and later on in sales (software).
If I am actually able to join him, can I be positive about finding work?

Thanks for any input.
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Post by taxico » Wed, 28 Sep 2016 5:10 pm

no you can't join him as a dependent.

depends on your lifestyle.

you will probably not find it easy to get a job.
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Boyfriend got job offer- can I join him

Post by dynoto » Wed, 28 Sep 2016 5:15 pm

6k is enough if you live the asian lifestyle, not the expaty kind.

I used to make do with a measly 1.7k

As for the chances of landing a job and employment pass.... I'm not sure

You can tag along with him only if you're married

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Post by ecureilx » Wed, 28 Sep 2016 7:42 pm

dynoto wrote:
As for the chances of landing a job and employment pass.... I'm not sure
Me says pretty low.
You can tag along with him only if you're married
Nope, not so. Possible to "tag" along unmarried

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Post by PNGMK » Wed, 28 Sep 2016 8:36 pm

Let me help since peanut gallery got this all wrong.

1. Because France / Germany recognize defacto relationships you most likely can get a Dependant's pass with assistance from your bf employer. Just emphasis you live together as though you are married. I can't recall the salary limit for a DP but I think your bf is above it.

2. As a teacher I suggest you reach out to the German School / Swiss School and French (is there one or am I thinking of the French cultural thing?). If you can teach IB then all IB International Schools are an option (there's about 6 here; the Canadian International School also may be an option as they will need French teachers as well). Look at their websites for career openings and send in a resume and call . International Schools here like people coming in on DP or as trailing spouses as they can pay them less (no accomodation) so you will generally find them responsive. IF you can't or don't get a DP you can probably get an employment visa via the school (my wife has one) as well. We are coming up to the recruiting period for next year but the main recruitment period is actually May from memory .

If you can get a job you will be much, much better off. The salary will help, you will have less visa issues and it will keep you busy. Try to set up some interviews and come out with your bf - if a school is desperate (and they can be) they may hire you immediately.
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Post by rajagainstthemachine » Wed, 28 Sep 2016 9:56 pm

To get there early is on time and showing up on time is late

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Post by taxico » Thu, 29 Sep 2016 12:04 am

i was pretty sure germany doesn't recognize such relationships (as the bf's german)... the OP might want to poke around that.

i don't recall what the deal is/was for france. good luck!
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Post by PNGMK » Thu, 29 Sep 2016 12:09 am

I'm pretty certain that the moral less European Union rules would require Germany to recognise such unions.
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Post by taxico » Thu, 29 Sep 2016 6:21 pm

i'm not sure if this helps... (or not) emphasis is not mine but Brussels's.

If you live together with a partner in a stable and continuous way, you have some EU-wide rights, even if you have not registered your partnership with any authority.

If you move with your de facto partner to another EU country, that country must facilitate their entry and residence there - whether your partner is an EU national or not.

You must be able to prove you live together or that you are in a long-term relationship. However, most EU countries have not defined exactly how you can prove a long-term relationship or cohabitation.

In EU countries which recognise de facto unions, you will also have rights and obligations concerning property, inheritance and maintenance payments following a separation.

These rights are particularly important for same-sex couples, as not all EU countries allow them to get married or register their partnership in any way.

http://europa.eu/youreurope/citizens/fa ... dex_en.htm
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