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Advice needed. Divorce

Post by Potatoe » Tue, 16 Aug 2016 3:42 pm

Hi all, I need advice.
Our marriage has broken down and I filed for divorce.
How long does it take to complete the whole process ?
The lawyer told us to wait and its been dragging for almost 2 years.
What could have happened ? Could the other be dragging ?
Does anyone experience this before ?
Thanks a lot.

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Re: Advice needed. Divorce

Post by sundaymorningstaple » Tue, 16 Aug 2016 4:19 pm

It takes a minimum of 2 years if neither have grounds other than "he said" "she said". It could take longer depending on children, property, etc, etc.

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Re: Advice needed. Divorce

Post by bgd » Tue, 16 Aug 2016 5:20 pm

I would have thought the best person to answer this is your lawyer. Surely he can provide some sort of status update on where the whole process is?

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Re: Advice needed. Divorce

Post by The Ref » Tue, 16 Aug 2016 6:09 pm

Mine has been ongoing for about 2 years, but that includes rounds of mediation etc. All that is remaining on mine is the division of assets but that still takes time.

Good luck

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Re: Advice needed. Divorce

Post by PNGMK » Tue, 16 Aug 2016 9:33 pm

First I thought Potato was spelt without an E. Second divorce in Singapore is the literal shits. It's a delay game played by the lawyers to charge more and more. Can you work with your ex for an amicable settlement and speed things up by not contesting anything?
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Re: Advice needed. Divorce

Post by The Ref » Wed, 17 Aug 2016 11:41 am

I ditched my lawyers as they charged for everything and didn't give me the best advise. But they did guide me through the process which was important so I suggest getting lawyers but trying to get an agreeable settlement without them.

There is also a system called Collaborative Family Practice which is the best thing to do before a divorce.
http://www.mediation.com.sg/business-se ... -practice/

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Re: Advice needed. Divorce

Post by Potatoe » Thu, 18 Aug 2016 11:13 am

Hi all !
Thanks a lot for your advice. It feels better not being alone.
I seek the lawyer and they told me to wait and wait.
I thought there might be something I can do if there is any
dispute. But there is no answer.
Was even thinking of looking for the MP ( if it helps ) ( too
desperate and didn't know what to do, and its MP. hahaha )
Do you think I should look for MP ? to help check status....

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Re: Advice needed. Divorce

Post by sundaymorningstaple » Thu, 18 Aug 2016 12:19 pm

Won't help, divorce is a civil matter, not a government one.

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Re: Advice needed. Divorce

Post by jsompinm » Thu, 18 Aug 2016 8:13 pm

PNGMK wrote:Can you work with your ex for an amicable settlement and speed things up by not contesting anything?
Totally agreed, divorce in Singapore can be a really trick and costly affair. Best choice would be to get an uncontested agreement, but this is not always possible due to personal reasons. And it is actually a lot more than just agreeing to disagree. Some more information http://sg-divorcelawyer.com/divorce-in-singapore/.

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Re: Advice needed. Divorce

Post by PNGMK » Thu, 18 Aug 2016 8:41 pm

Another option would be to abandon divorce in Singapore and move to a jurisdiction where it is quicker. For example if I wanted to divorce my wife (which I don't) I would move us back to Australia and be done in 12 months in a no-fault divorce.
I not lawyer/teacher/CPA.
You've been arrested? Law Society of Singapore can provide referrals.
You want an International School job? School website or http://www.ISS.edu
Your rugrat needs a School? Avoid for profit schools
You need Tax advice? Ask a CPA
You ran away without doing NS? Shame on you!

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Re: Advice needed. Divorce

Post by mrdraper_2011 » Fri, 04 Nov 2016 7:16 pm

Potatoe wrote:Hi all !
Thanks a lot for your advice. It feels better not being alone.
I seek the lawyer and they told me to wait and wait.
I thought there might be something I can do if there is any
dispute. But there is no answer.
Was even thinking of looking for the MP ( if it helps ) ( too
desperate and didn't know what to do, and its MP. hahaha )
Do you think I should look for MP ? to help check status....
Hi Potatoe, I sympathise. Im no lawyer but I did some digging/googling and I think your situation depends a lot on whether you/your spouse going to contest the divorce. I think reading up more on your own before going to any lawyer will help. I found this - http://www.lawguidesingapore.com/can-un ... rce-occur/
I think there is also a video on their site/FB on proving adultery in a divorce. (i hope im not being presumptuous here)
Hope this helps!

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