rajagainstthemachine wrote:This woman is as bad as all her evil family members, she is ungrateful towards her husband who pays for her and her family, she doesn't mind leaving him because of what him and his family did, but not before extracting her pound of flesh, that is having him pay for her lifestyle and also marrying off her sister. She is seen as protecting her parents and sister and that is priority over everything else, she is no less manipulative than her husbands family she portrayed as evil, eg having thoughts to blackmail her husband.
Almost every other family in India has elements of this sort, plotting,scheming and manipulating.
Why am I not surprised? 95% of regional tv shows are just about this aspect.
If you bother going through my previous posts, you would see that I have repeatedly mentioned that it would be "ungrateful" to leave husband after all that he did for me and my family.
I mentioned gratitude before you, I do have doubts and second thoughts on this issue.
However, there are several important difference between what my husband does for me and my family vs what what he had tried to do regarding this girl whom you call Y and her family.
Husband sends 1000 SGD to my family, as I mentioned this is a very small part of his earning, before you mention I shall repeat that I am grateful whatever he sends, he had no obligation to help them(I later found out a secret and compelled him somewhat to send more, but he would send around 500 SGD even before that), he still did it- but coming back to the point, what he had planned to do would've spoiled this girl and her family's life, had that plan succeeded, which in no way really compares to the small part of his total income sent home voluntarily.
As I said, motherhood was extremely important to her, I saw him and his friend whom you call X discuss this plan in detail before X married Y, he would tell her what to tell this girl over Skype, he taught his friend to even mention future children's names.
Later on, when Y started getting suspicious with X's lack of interest in a normal conjugal life & was both furious and extremely suspicious with the fraudulent long distance for higher education plans, my husband would tutor X about what to say.
Had this plan succeeded(again it most likely wouldn't, but still my husband did plan for it to succeed)- we would've eaten a good decade or so of Y's life with trying to pretend nothing's wrong, she'd eventually be a mom etc, X really has dreams of this higher education which will make him successful etc etc, extracted money from her via her job(and we'd all hoped she'd get and be able to keep a high earning job and there was a lot more in the plan which I don't want to disclose as I don't want anyone to figure out my real identity) in the interim and then finally may have informed her sometime in her late 30's that X had developed an illness.
So she would never become a mom, and her parents never become grandparents- but they would've extracted all financial benefits, she with her educational and professional background would probably have got the PR X was incapable of getting, and finally husband had hoped his friend would sell off his ancestral property
in India and they would open something together in SG with that.
When Y refused to live in such an abnormal life and demanded that if X is incapable of a normal married life, she'd like to break off the marriage, husband recommended X didn't give Y any money, so she would start searching for a job sooner and they could put their plan to action asap. Y was starved of food and money in a foreign land, before she ended this charade.
It was a ridiculous and impractical plan, any beautiful, educated and accomplished girl would've seen through it, and so would her well to do, professionally successful family and even with all the Indian stigma of divorce would want out of this kind of "marriage", but the point is not stupidity, its the level of exploitation they are capable of thinking of.
This is very different from a 1000 SGD sent to my family voluntarily.
Husband also tutored X who is even dumber than my husband(and who husband now blames for the plan's failure) about what lies to say to Y's parents about his higher education dreams etc.
Also, my family actually needed
this money, whereas for husband and his family it was primarily greed
. Another difference.
And TV shows are, while based on reality, a widely exaggerated version of reality, so its a bit odd to judge Indians based on tv shows.