Filipino Bar girls

[joanalynfuerte]

Hi. Just wonder..i wif my bf for 3 yrs.. and we are getting married soon.. but i always caught him dating filipino gals from bars along tanjong pagar and orchard tower.. he say just playful and relieved stress.. and yet he like stil keep doing tat.. wat he can get from this place tat he cant stop.. and hes been dating them not only see them inside pubs. Im just wonder why he keep going to this kind of places.

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[Strong Eagle]

It is called SEX... he's not going there for the conversation. Blow jobs, hand jobs, ficky-fick.

Unless you don't mind him banging other women, not only would I not get married, I'd find another boy friend.

[joanalynfuerte]

Yah. He admitted tat he had sex with a girl and bring her to hotel.. after knowing tat i really break off with him.. its does hurt so much wen u only oversea a while and u wil find out ur partner is doing tat.. he promised not to do it again.. and he just playful... i wonder how playful is he then.. few months already after tat insident.. i dun know how to trust him again.

[marc.favroo]

you have got to be a bot of some sort?

[ecureilx]

Hi. Just wonder..i wif my bf for 3 yrs.. and we are getting married soon.. but i always caught him dating filipino gals from bars along tanjong pagar and orchard tower.. he say just playful and relieved stress.. and yet he like stil keep doing tat.. wat he can get from this place tat he cant stop.. and hes been dating them not only see them inside pubs. Im just wonder why he keep going to this kind of places.

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Should I ask, do you know why he seem to fancy Filipino girls ? Playful isn't an answer. And where would you be from ?

[the lynx]

Ask him how he would feel if you start being playful with the male escorts you can hire from the Green Book. No need to wonder why he does that. He is just being a selfish jerk and you're being a spineless dumbo if you still can bear the thought of being with him (and worse, going to be married to him) when he still does that after you have caught him before.

[rajagainstthemachine]

you should pull a macarena on him.

[ecureilx]

you should pull a macarena on him.

That's funny

Made me look up the lyrics of the song.

[JR8]

Pretty clearly (IMO) you can't marry him. If you were to, you are accepting his behaviour and inviting him to treat you like a doormat for the rest of your life. Surely you deserve someone better, not least someone who respects you?

It's hard enough dealing with such things when they begin and are revealed someway down the road into a marriage. Where do you draw the line, how do you go about rebuilding trust, and trying to get some functioning relationship back on track? And so on. But you aren't married yet, he's doing this to you, and you are fully aware of it. If you accept it now then you never have grounds to ask or expect him to change. A recipe for misery/disaster.

--- Apparently he doesn't respect you. Perhaps you might consider how much, deep down, you respect ('love') yourself. The danger being that if you don't respect yourself, you might conclude that you deserve nothing better than this man. And there you go, the two damaged pieces of the jigsaw just about fit together, at least for a while...

... Just my 2c (and something I learned and grew from after my unenviable 1st marriage).

[joanalynfuerte]

you should pull a macarena on him.

That's funny

Made me look up the lyrics of the song.

Yah... same here too.. i wanna see ful lyrics of macarena

[joanalynfuerte]

Pretty clearly (IMO) you can't marry him. If you were to, you are accepting his behaviour and inviting him to treat you like a doormat for the rest of your life. Surely you deserve someone better, not least someone who respects you?

It's hard enough dealing with such things when they begin and are revealed someway down the road into a marriage. Where do you draw the line, how do you go about rebuilding trust, and trying to get some functioning relationship back on track? And so on. But you aren't married yet, he's doing this to you, and you are fully aware of it. If you accept it now then you never have grounds to ask or expect him to change. A recipe for misery/disaster.

--- Apparently he doesn't respect you. Perhaps you might consider how much, deep down, you respect ('love') yourself. The danger being that if you don't respect yourself, you might conclude that you deserve nothing better than this man. And there you go, the two damaged pieces of the jigsaw just about fit together, at least for a while...

... Just my 2c (and something I learned and grew from after my unenviable 1st marriage).

I understand... it just he trying to show me he wil change.. i just scared 1 day he wil ba back on this kind of playtime. Funny thing is we are getting married this end of the month. Crazy but.. i beliv i really love him..

[the lynx]

Look at it another way, if he can bring himself to do that kind of horrible thing to you one time, what's stopping him to do it again (and again and again and again)?

[menudown]

I understand... it just he trying to show me he wil change.. i just scared 1 day he wil ba back on this kind of playtime. Funny thing is we are getting married this end of the month. Crazy but.. i beliv i really love him..

the reason is that there is no other person you love but only him...not even yourself
but again, its all up to you and you are the only person who can decide what's best for your life

[ecureilx]

Look at it another way, if he can bring himself to do that kind of horrible thing to you one time, what's stopping him to do it again (and again and again and again)?

I may ask, how many times he did it already and she never caught it ..

A lot of guys claim they are just killing time with harmless girls.

But in reality, at the risk of implicating myself , I know such harmless bars cost upwards of 500 $ a night, to get girls to entertain the guy, and if the story is really true that a girl tempted him to a hotel, I bet is a lot of expensive foreplay preceded the hotel stay , and I would estimate a minimum of 2,000 ++

Leaving out the guys faithfulness or not, do you want to spend your life with a guy who can easily spend 3,000 to 5,000 or more a week, money that should be put aside for your and your family's future ?

Unless he is a real high nett worth individual (in which case he should have better taste than TP ..) or he is the boss, and if he is a salaried worker, layoff is never off the books. Imagine what happens next, when the thousands that could have been saved won't come back.

I, to be honest, don't spend money in such bars, but the times when I got dragged in by friends, I have seen guys spend upwards of 1,000 $, with no qualms. And an oil and gas guy visits a bar which is not raunchy but still spends 3,000 + on his weekly visits. It's his money, but I do wonder how much he saved for his family, if he has one

[nakatago]

But in reality, at the risk of implicating myself , I know such harmless bars cost upwards of 500 $ a night

You might as well hire an escort.