interesting mix of bands there, so you are essentially a mix of classic heavy metal, doom, power metal and progressive with nu metal influences?
your username implies you may like cathedral, however there your post make it sound like there is some confusion about what your band should really sound like, is it because your drummer likes bands x,y,z and can't agree with your bassist?
edit: oh you don't have a drummer lol
and you are a symphonic metal band without the symphony?
anyway good luck in your quest, you said you have an EP, do you have a few tracks on yourtube or something?