It's a pretty common occurrence, actually. The sincere ones, at least.Sporkin wrote:Of late there seems to be quite a few posts from locals wanting to meetup, out of curiosity what enters your mind when locals come here to post about meeting new friends etc?
Common causes for alarm bells are:Sporkin wrote: I am a local, I joined this forum because many of the topics regarding ICA and employment of foreigners are applicable to my wife but I never really had the urge to meet up( perhaps its an introvert thing ).
Some people wrote that it sets off alarm bells when you see locals interested in meeting up, would anyone like to share some horror stories? People, places and names protected of course.
It is certain behavior rather than the poster being local that sets off the alarm.Sporkin wrote:Some people wrote that it sets off alarm bells when you see locals interested in meeting up
nakatago wrote:It's a pretty common occurrence, actually. The sincere ones, at least.Sporkin wrote:Of late there seems to be quite a few posts from locals wanting to meetup, out of curiosity what enters your mind when locals come here to post about meeting new friends etc?
Common causes for alarm bells are:Sporkin wrote: I am a local, I joined this forum because many of the topics regarding ICA and employment of foreigners are applicable to my wife but I never really had the urge to meet up( perhaps its an introvert thing ).
Some people wrote that it sets off alarm bells when you see locals interested in meeting up, would anyone like to share some horror stories? People, places and names protected of course.
* poster is actually trying to sell something. Experience lets us know if someone is really just looking for a meetup or hiding and would eventually spring an advertisement.
* poster is some pervy guy hitting on women; yeah, we've had a lot of those as well
* poster is just trying to get posts in so that private messaging will get activated
* poster is trying to fish for comments to put in the local rag; they would obviously be out of context
Most of us old-timers, especially those of us who have subsequently become moderators, I think you will find, do exactly that. We get absolutely nothing for moderating here except the knowledge that we are helping others (sometimes even bad news is helpful if it causes you not to waste long periods of your time waiting for Plan A to come through and not thinking about a Plan B if it all falls through or is likely to fall through. But most of us old timers had some help along the way and we like to pay it forward. It comes with some bouquets and some brickbats, but at the end of the day, we are helping people if we can.Sporkin wrote:Come to think of it, this subject could jolly well be taken as bait for the rags. I guess I haven't been reading the forum long enough to see locals wanting to meet up being a rather common occurrence.
It could also be the cynicism on my part when I asked this, I don't believe in people doing things for purely altruistic reasons, for most people anyways. I am always thinking "what's the catch?"
It must be interesting having seen the tens of thousands of post, cutting across a spectrum of people, while we would like to believe we are all unique and special, broadly speaking statistics tell us otherwise.
Nothing wrong with that...mostly. Just don't be obvious.Sporkin wrote:It could also be the cynicism on my part when I asked this, I don't believe in people doing things for purely altruistic reasons, for most people anyways. I am always thinking "what's the catch?"
As with any internet forum I think your perception of others builds over time. That's one reason why it can be so enjoyable/beguiling when you meet them in the flesh [sometimes your perceptions are right, other times they are completely wrong]Sporkin wrote:Of late there seems to be quite a few posts from locals wanting to meetup, out of curiosity what enters your mind when locals come here to post about meeting new friends etc?
... Some people wrote that it sets off alarm bells when you see locals interested in meeting up, would anyone like to share some horror stories?
You mean to rant about their women?bgd wrote:Or rent their women - that was earlier today, since removed.
Dress it up how you like, the Buddhist monk on his alms round, Mother Theresa, that U2/Geldof fund-raiser for Ethiopia ... there is no such thing. Anything 'altruistic' is, net-net ultimately for personal reward.sundaymorningstaple wrote:Curious now. What would you call a good example of an altruistic person where it could be proven that they get absolutely no satisfaction for what they were doing?
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