Ok, my 2 centsPaul the Pole wrote:Hi, my wife who is a Singaporean is trying to convince me to move to Singapore. We met in the UK almost 10 years ago where I worked and she studied. Four years later we got maried. We didin't like Uk much so we moved to Poland where I am from. Currently, she is thinking of having children ands insisting on living in Singapore. I quite like my life in Poland, have quite a relaxed job and feel reluctant to change all that. Of course, I like the Singaporean culture, climate and food, however I expect this will not be as straight forward. I would appreciate any advice on this.
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If you are happy with your job and feel no thrill about moving to Singapore, then I would say, stay in Poland.Paul the Pole wrote:Hi, my wife who is a Singaporean is trying to convince me to move to Singapore. We met in the UK almost 10 years ago where I worked and she studied. Four years later we got maried. We didin't like Uk much so we moved to Poland where I am from. Currently, she is thinking of having children ands insisting on living in Singapore. I quite like my life in Poland, have quite a relaxed job and feel reluctant to change all that. Of course, I like the Singaporean culture, climate and food, however I expect this will not be as straight forward. I would appreciate any advice on this.
Yes, I didn't think this way. Thank you.Ok, my 2 cents
Women want to be near their parents when they are pregnant and give birth and later ...
If you mean like openly aggressive racist behavior then the answer is no, it does not happen at all (or is negligible). As a Caucasian you may experience some animosity but very, very unlikely at work and outside work, also unlikely. There is pretty strong anti-foreigner sentiment around but the Caucasians are generally not a target and I believe it is less racial but more nation based (i.e. animosity towards PRCs, Indians, Filipinos).Paul the Pole wrote:x9200 thank you for your response. i have a better picture now. i am a bit worried about racism at work ... does it happen a lot?
Not in my experience, and especially not if you're Western/'Anglo-Saxon'/'white-euro'. IME the typical latter come here with specialist skills, use those skills over some few years, reap the rewards, and then return home. The locals might envy your $ and bird-pulling abilities, but that's about it.Paul the Pole wrote:x9200 thank you for your response. i have a better picture now. i am a bit worried about racism at work ... does it happen a lot?
Thank you, probably my housing situation would not be that fortunate in SG. In Poland we live in a flat as well but SG prices still seem crazy ...Strong Eagle wrote:My S$0.02: I think you need to consider what your profession/trade is, and how you will go about inserting yourself into the Singapore workforce. Depending upon what you do (and presumably, since your wife wants to domino in Singapore it will be only you making a living), you may find that salaries in many areas are depressed, comparatively speaking to what you might earn elsewhere. Couple this with high housing prices and you could find yourself limited in your housing options.
I'm not saying that HDB flats are not an option, just saying that I am very glad that I was able to earn enough in Singapore to stay in a semi-detached house with a small and pleasant yard, and a wonderful patio where I spent much of my home time. I had room for storage, a place to put the BBQ, and options for parking my motorcycle where it wouldn't be touched.
I'd really assess the type of home living I have right now and understand how much I would be willing to give up (yard size, privacy, single family, etc) in order to live in Singapore at a reasonable monthly rent.
TandD this is very true. I emailed your post to my wife . But seriously, I have some bad feelings regarding moving to SG, and would rather skip this. Thank you for your post.TandD wrote:Just from a wife's perspective, I would agree that probably your wife wants to be near family which of course is important. However, so many expats wives I've met and others I have heard about have husbands who work long hours and weekends etc. (fortunately my husband is employed by a UK company so haven't been swallowed by work.)
So as I wife, as much as I would like to be near my family, at the end of the day, which one would I choose; my husband's time, attention and involvement or, much less of him and more of my family? I would have my husband anytime, after all I did choose to leave my family to share my life with him. Not only that, goodness, how many expats marriages have I heard of that has broken here (yes I know there are divorces everywhere, but it seems that the pressure, temptation, and whatever others factors of being an expats seem to weaken marriages in SG).
Maybe as a couple you need to consider if those potential change would affect you and in the bigger picture, what would be best for you as a 'family unit'. Not saying that by moving here you'll end up divorced, I'm just suggesting that you weight up the pros and cons and how it would impact your relationship.
If you have a gut feeling about something, that's probably something you know but haven't (consciously) realized it yet.Paul the Pole wrote: But seriously, I have some bad feelings regarding moving to SG, and would rather skip this. Thank you for your post.
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