make her go over. didn't work for me, but hey, he's gotta try!zzm9980 wrote:He has a wife/girlfriend/fiance around here somewhere. Probably rather compelling.Brah wrote: Frankly, if you haven't been here to live and work, and you have a better offer in the States, you really need a very compelling reason to come here over that. I'm not so sure that you do.
Yeah, seeing the sums involved I think if I were OP I would take the $300k/yr and do that for a couple of years until just before total burnout. Then come on over to Asia and work in something comparatively relaxed after you have that nest egg.taxico wrote:make her go over. didn't work for me, but hey, he's gotta try!zzm9980 wrote:He has a wife/girlfriend/fiance around here somewhere. Probably rather compelling.Brah wrote: Frankly, if you haven't been here to live and work, and you have a better offer in the States, you really need a very compelling reason to come here over that. I'm not so sure that you do.
I'm skeptical of long distance relationships, especially with that kind of time zone delta, I think the percentage who will still be together after more than 12 months will be very low. So if it were me I would start with this question, do you really love her ? if so, find a compromise to be in the same place or at least the same region. If not, take the 300k, obviously!zzm9980 wrote:Yeah, seeing the sums involved I think if I were OP I would take the $300k/yr and do that for a couple of years until just before total burnout. Then come on over to Asia and work in something comparatively relaxed after you have that nest egg.taxico wrote:make her go over. didn't work for me, but hey, he's gotta try!zzm9980 wrote: He has a wife/girlfriend/fiance around here somewhere. Probably rather compelling.
Of course, I also imagine that once you taste that lifestyle it's a bit hard to give up.
Depends how serious he is. If there is even the slightest doubt in the long term viability of the relationship, do you really think coming here is better? Ang Moh working for GIC making $10k/month? The SPG Vultures will be swirling around reading to do everything in their power to test that relationship while he's still collecting his bags in T3. Plus, he obviously already has a predilection for girls from this part of the world.Beeroclock wrote: I'm skeptical of long distance relationships, especially with that kind of time zone delta, I think the percentage who will still be together after more than 12 months will be very low. So if it were me I would start with this question, do you really love her ? if so, find a compromise to be in the same place or at least the same region. If not, take the 300k, obviously!
low chance doesn't mean no chance. it's difficult and not for everybody.Beeroclock wrote:...I'm skeptical of long distance relationships, especially with that kind of time zone delta, I think the percentage who will still be together after more than 12 months will be very low...
Yes I agree, I was going to make the same point myself. Coin it when you're younger and 'hungry', and then take your Wall Street background to a cushy job in Asia later.zzm9980 wrote:Yeah, seeing the sums involved I think if I were OP I would take the $300k/yr and do that for a couple of years until just before total burnout. Then come on over to Asia and work in something comparatively relaxed after you have that nest egg.
The trick is never tasting the '$300k lifestyle', never setting your lifestyle on a par with your pay-check. I've seen people who've spent it all and been spat out, broke and with nothing by 25, but many more who by the same age have been prudent and set themselves up for life. I reckon the majority smart enough to be making that in the first place, aren't fool enough to go and blow it all...zzm9980 wrote: Of course, I also imagine that once you taste that lifestyle it's a bit hard to give up.
Yep, taxico, I'm coming up on 31 years and still still with her. Granted the first 8 were rough, but there was enough there to keep the glue bonded.taxico wrote:low chance doesn't mean no chance. it's difficult and not for everybody.Beeroclock wrote:...I'm skeptical of long distance relationships, especially with that kind of time zone delta, I think the percentage who will still be together after more than 12 months will be very low...
it worked out for me and my then-girlfriend. we visited each other twice or thrice a year for many years.
we're now married. okay, and we're STILL married.
^^This!.JR8 wrote: The trick is never tasting the '$300k lifestyle', never setting your lifestyle on a par with your pay-check. I've seen people who've spent it all and been spat out, broke and with nothing by 25, but many more who by the same age have been prudent and set themselves up for life. I reckon the majority smart enough to be making that in the first place, aren't fool enough to go and blow it all...
+1. Set yourself up as a 'Wall St dude', then use that background later to come here and find something better. Maybe take that GIC job in 5-10 years. Say you took it now for a few years, then wanted to go back to Wall St. Who there would be familiar with the GIC? I don't think it'd be that great on your CV.Brah wrote:There is also the aspect that this industry is not what it was, and most likely will never be again. I've read articles about how you get in you and make your big money early, then go on and do something else with the rest of your career.
So you either start that off on $100k or $300k.
Frankly, if you haven't been here to live and work, and you have a better offer in the States, you really need a very compelling reason to come here over that. I'm not so sure that you do.
Ok maybe my assertion is under doubt judging by the anecdotal evidence here! I have seen some stick together too but it was very tough, personally I wouldn't do it if I had a choice.I'm skeptical of long distance relationships, especially with that kind of time zone delta, I think the percentage who will still be together after more than 12 months will be very low.
The audience is atypical. The majority of people here are foreigners used to working (and living) far from home, and much more likely to deal with such situations better than the average person. I would guess a lot of those who took their first foreign assignment and found their relationships falling apart went back home and thus aren't likely to be on this forum.Beeroclock wrote:Ok maybe my assertion is under doubt judging by the anecdotal evidence here! I have seen some stick together too but it was very tough, personally I wouldn't do it if I had a choice.I'm skeptical of long distance relationships, especially with that kind of time zone delta, I think the percentage who will still be together after more than 12 months will be very low.
Users browsing this forum: No registered users and 4 guests
