was this like some PR application? getting rejected multiple times?Wd40 wrote: I know people taking plenty of time for marriage fixing and some of my friends have records of rejecting/getting rejected at the last stage after over 100 attempts.
Also in the Singapore society there is so much pressure to look good, slim, hot, whatever and then you need to keep looking hot and good looking even after marriage so that the partner doesn't stray. I seriously don't think its worth it.
Wd40 wrote:The "itself" comes from the direct translation from Indian languages like hindi, where its common to place a stress on something by using the equivalent of word "itself". "I, myself" also direct translation.
Just curious what would be the right way of conveying this in English?
"I want to stay in Singapore, really badly"
"I want to stay in Singapore and nowhere else"
"I must stay in Singapore" sounds wrong because it conveys a different meaning. It may mean that there is some obligation behind it.
"I must stay in Singapore only" is also commonly used by Indians, which also doesnt sound right.
Wd40 wrote:Thanks Lynx, How about the local and Malaysian Chinese and Malays? Those who fall in love during the college or work, get into love marriage. But what about those that dont fall in love? I was assuming they go on dating sites or community clubs etc to find the right partner? Which is kind of arranged, except that here you are doing the arranging yourself, instead of parents isn't it?
you summed it up nicely ....pisceangirl wrote: Of course you do. So much easier to not have to use your own brain, so much easier to not have to introspect and examine what you need and have the courage to pursue it. Instead follow the well defined path - Study for a degree your parents choose, then get into a job they find acceptable, then marry the girl they pick for you at age 27, be a father by 30 and so on... Condition your child accordingly as well... and it goes on...
pisceangirl wrote:Of course you do. So much easier to not have to use your own brain, so much easier to not have to introspect and examine what you need and have the courage to pursue it. Instead follow the well defined path - Study for a degree your parents choose, then get into a job they find acceptable, then marry the girl they pick for you at age 27, be a father by 30 and so on... Condition your child accordingly as well... and it goes on...
Why thanks SE!Strong Eagle wrote:pisceangirl wrote:Of course you do. So much easier to not have to use your own brain, so much easier to not have to introspect and examine what you need and have the courage to pursue it. Instead follow the well defined path - Study for a degree your parents choose, then get into a job they find acceptable, then marry the girl they pick for you at age 27, be a father by 30 and so on... Condition your child accordingly as well... and it goes on...
Wow! Serious wisdom, here. Wish I could buy you lunch and hear more.
pisceangirl wrote:Why thanks SE!Strong Eagle wrote:pisceangirl wrote:Of course you do. So much easier to not have to use your own brain, so much easier to not have to introspect and examine what you need and have the courage to pursue it. Instead follow the well defined path - Study for a degree your parents choose, then get into a job they find acceptable, then marry the girl they pick for you at age 27, be a father by 30 and so on... Condition your child accordingly as well... and it goes on...
Wow! Serious wisdom, here. Wish I could buy you lunch and hear more.
Yeah but what if his dream conflicts with her own dream? A marriage is about making compromises and being flexible. If one party insists on having his /her own way, it will not work.midlet2013 wrote:
2. Bring ur wife on ur side. Tell her that compromising on ur dreams will make u bitter. But if she supports u and u succeed, ur life will be happier in the long run.
I will have to agree with that.earthfriendly wrote:Yeah but what if his dream conflicts with her own dream? A marriage is about making compromises and being flexible. If one party insists on having his /her own way, it will not work.midlet2013 wrote:
2. Bring ur wife on ur side. Tell her that compromising on ur dreams will make u bitter. But if she supports u and u succeed, ur life will be happier in the long run.
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