Another Angmoh in trouble!

[ecureilx]

Holding open shop doors for a stream of people passing through etc etc

Bet no one says thank you...

mm... why would anybody say thank you ??

I had this incident, in Little India- saw this family nearing the door. seeing the mother and daughter, I held the door open, and just behind them comes the father and son, acting like I am the door man ..

I just let go of the door, and it slammed into the father straight .. and he gave me an ugly look .. and I was "what ? " and walked away, wondering what kind of lesson the father is teaching the son, when he doesn't encourage the son to go and hold the door from a stranger who held it for the mother/sister ..

And it got even bad .. when i was in office I mentioned this to my Indian colleagues, and they were like "Who the hell asked you to hold the door" ???

Lesson learnt .. though for me, now it is, don't bother if the people nearing the door avoid eye contact .. just let it slam on their face ..

[therat]

And it got even bad .. when i was in office I mentioned this to my Indian colleagues, and they were like "Who the hell asked you to hold the door" ???

Once I saw an Indian colleague with walking difficulty approaching the office main door. I hold the door for him.
He don't even said thank you or look at me.
Like my job is to hold the door for him.
May be he think my job title is lower than him and I need to provide service to him.

Lesson learns.

[sundaymorningstaple]

Nah, defo make eye contact when you let go of the door and have a smug look on your face.

[the lynx]

There are people who never learned to be courteous and say thank you for gestures like that. I'd be happy to let the door swing and smack them on their butts if they dare to walk by me without saying thank you as I hold the door for them.

[Steve1960]

I don't think this is helping much, you guys will be throwing chairs at buses soon!

I will take one thank you from a pretty girl for holding the door open along with nothing from 20 other people thinking it's my duty

[ecureilx]

Nah, defo make eye contact when you let go of the door and have a smug look on your face.

I try to give the Blur look .. so far it seems to be working

[beppi]

A better reaction would have been saying "You could have said Thank You!" loud enough that bystanders can hear it. Shame is the best educator here!

[sundaymorningstaple]

They just might reply, "Why? I thought that was your job."

Then how?

[nutnut]

You know what, I tend to agree with Steve, I don't really care if people say thank you. However, I only hold it as long as I am holding it.

Sometimes I get frustrated and I shout "WHERE'S YOUR MANNERS YOU IGNORANT PEOPLE" when people don't say thanks.

If there is a pretty girl though and they smile or say thanks, then I am cool.

[Sergei82]

If a pretty girl tells you to kiss her a##, you're also cool only because she is pretty?

Anybody saying thanks will make you cool, I guess.

[nutnut]

Yep, happy if a pretty girl tells me to kiss her ass too, passionate reaction is great, it's the droning ignorance that I hate.

Yeah, thanks from anyone is good, but, to be honest, I was referring to Steve's comment above, better from a pretty girl...

[ecureilx]

A better reaction would have been saying "You could have said Thank You!" loud enough that bystanders can hear it. Shame is the best educator here!

really ? and I can guess the answer in retort: "I didn't ask you to hold it .. "

no sir, letting the door slam on their face is more fun ..

[morenangpinay]

and they said it will be the pinoys who will riot next after indians...looks like its going to be the caucasians! hah.. lol

[JR8]

I find myself over compensating already. Always holding the lift door for everyone else, last in and last out. Holding open shop doors for a stream of people passing through etc etc

Yes I hold doors open too, it's hard-wired into me, dear readers I cannot help it.

But then, as so often happens in this country, even the small courtesies go unacknowledged, or worse, exploited. It is at this point I consider whether I might accidentally brutally kick someone in the shins, or similar - 'Oh dear I'm sorry about that, but of course it wouldn't have happened if you weren't such a selfish shit'.

As they say back home 'manners are not simply about being polite, they make life simpler for everyone', it is a shame few people here seem to have learnt any.

p.s. As I've probably noted before I find the local c8-14 year old school-child demographic the most polite. They are the only ones who might hold a door open for me.

[Sergei82]

Moral of the above: pretty is just good on its own.

But you wouldn't slam a door on a pretty face, would you?