kansah wrote:i think what you need is a confrontation between you, your boyfriend and the other girl. arrange it so that none of the two won't know. this way, you will have closure or at ascertain who is telling the truth. the sooner the better. preferably this weekend.
my imagination could be running on overdrive here, but you can't take what the other woman told you on face value. she could be a scorned woman or something (an ex-girlfriend?). hence, why would she ask you to contact her behind your boyfriend's back?
i'm sure if you trust the guy that much you will have a way of knowing whether he is lying or not, right?
don't be put off by how upset he got. as long as you discussed the whole thing in a calm, rational manner that is.
i shouldn't point this out, but where does he get accusing YOU of fooling around? you were discussing whether the info you got is correct or not, right? he shouldn't be affected that much.
tsk tsk tsk. MEN...can't live with them, can't live without them.
kahlan wrote:So, what is the status of your relationship now? Are you still with him? Or have broken things up with him?
As for the men, you really can't generalize. Considering that women do this too. And yes, it is an asian thing to have the other person dump you instead of you dumping them to lessen the guilt.
But in the end. The decision is up to you. Whether you are going to stay or move on to a better and more honest relationship!
You will just have to console yourself by taking the moral high ground. But, that is no consolation is it? It is tempting to tell people off what a jerk or lying s**t somebody actually is. But, as Global Citizen just said, that only offers temporary satisfaction. You will have to deal and live with the consequences of your actions.Anonymous wrote: where is the justice?
I have a friend who married a philandering man. They have fought so many times about this behavior and each time, she forgave him. Until one day she couldn't take it anymore and she finally left him. While we were talking, we got around to her husband's family. And she mentioned that the family has a history of philandering. That the husband's father did it to his mother and him as well as the rest of his male siblings fool around as well.Anonymous wrote:
Where are men like this bred? Is there some kind of 'camp' they are sent to where there learn to not have a conscience?
I think, fooling around has something to do with what we learn about as kids. If kids see their parents doing it without any consequences, then chances are, they will do it as adults because they don't consider it bad at all.
Vaucluse wrote:I'd disagree with you there:I think, fooling around has something to do with what we learn about as kids. If kids see their parents doing it without any consequences, then chances are, they will do it as adults because they don't consider it bad at all.
My father screwed around when he was married, but neither my brother nor I do. I can say the same for many guys I know.
It is an indivdual's choice and blaming it on parents, TV or whatever is just finding a quick excuse.
As for confronting him in public . . . sigh, why oh why do that to YOURELF? You will be seen as a slapper. Fair? Definitely not. Probable? Yes.
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