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Re: Help! My FDW destroying my life

Postby PNGMK » Sun, 10 Dec 2017 7:37 pm

Have some faith in the police. Cooperate with them. You're not the first idiot to shit where he eats.
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Re: Help! My FDW destroying my life

Postby PNGMK » Sun, 10 Dec 2017 7:38 pm

S30 wrote:Hi , please help! My former Indonesian FDW destroying my life. Have you been in similar circumstances or know anyone who been?!!!.
I cant take this anymore!

She accused me for molesting her and I have done nothing wrong than I screwed up by having a relation with her ( we kissed several time) and no doubts she seduced me ( to detailed to write it here)..I was stupid and fell for it. Before that she asked about money, loan, go party etc etc. I said no always.. expect a couple of time where i helped her family back home with money. We started to have a relationship ( yes stupid me) shortly after things start to disappear such as money, gold, etc etc and she start wear new cloth, expensive gold.. proofs are there. In fact when the police came they found some minor stolen item in her room. She did a police report against me the day after i fired her on molesting and she run away. their is police report against her for theft.

As i am foreigner they took my passport and this is the worst time in my life with thousands of reasons i want this over and cant wait. I have lawyer, i have done my statement, we have sent in representation. Iam also prepared to compensate and even applied for it without any admit guilt. Iam prepared to do polygraph.. I want this nightmare over I have never been involved in a police case.

What can be done? Pls help. I can't take it any more. Police take their time but i dont have any time before it gets worst!

Any maid case u been involved in? How was it solved? Will procecuter agree to compaund the case when its a maid? So this can speed up? I dont care about money at this point or if she gets punshied or not. I just want this over now!
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Don't shit where you eat.

Postby PNGMK » Sun, 10 Dec 2017 8:42 pm

OP wants post deleted.

No chance.
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Re: I kissed a maid and crapped in my nest

Postby MrEgon » Tue, 23 Jan 2018 11:46 pm

Either you give her a big amount of money to shut her mouth up, or sooner or later you leave Singapore. That's the price you have learned. Lessons aren't for free.

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Re: I kissed a maid and crapped in my nest

Postby earthfriendly » Wed, 24 Jan 2018 2:12 am

MrEgon wrote:Either you give her a big amount of money to shut her mouth up


That happened to somebody I know. A friend's father. He is a nice and decent guy, with grand kids to boot. It is biologically difficult for a man to say no to a woman's advance. Unfortunately, there are women out there who will not hesitate to exploit this weakness. And the family suspected this was not the first time for this maid.

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Re: I kissed a maid and crapped in my nest

Postby PNGMK » Wed, 24 Jan 2018 9:16 am

Just to make it clear I am not the IOP (Idiotic Original Poster).
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Re: I kissed a maid and crapped in my nest

Postby ecureilx » Wed, 24 Jan 2018 7:06 pm

PNGMK wrote:Just to make it clear I am not the IOP (Idiotic Original Poster).
Really ?



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Re: I kissed a maid and crapped in my nest

Postby PNGMK » Thu, 25 Jan 2018 8:43 am

ecureilx wrote:
PNGMK wrote:Just to make it clear I am not the IOP (Idiotic Original Poster).
Really ?



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Yeah because the OP deleted his message and account the posts are a bit jumbled.
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Re: PR REP Renewal

Postby Wd40 » Thu, 25 Jan 2018 10:06 am

Many of my colleagues are very trigger happy to hire a maid and send their wives to work. I tell them it is a land mine, be very careful. I let my wife stay at home and do household work, we don't want to get into any kind of mess.

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Postby PNGMK » Thu, 25 Jan 2018 10:09 am

Wd40 wrote:Many of my colleagues are very trigger happy to hire a maid and send their wives to work. I tell them it is a land mine, be very careful. I let my wife stay at home and do household work, we don't want to get into any kind of mess.

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Re: I kissed a maid and crapped in my nest

Postby Frankieoh » Thu, 01 Mar 2018 4:57 pm

Lesson learned the hard way. Don't screw up on maids! [-( [-(

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Re: PR REP Renewal

Postby the lynx » Thu, 01 Mar 2018 5:28 pm

PNGMK wrote:
Wd40 wrote:Many of my colleagues are very trigger happy to hire a maid and send their wives to work. I tell them it is a land mine, be very careful. I let my wife stay at home and do household work, we don't want to get into any kind of mess.

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Yep. Smart man.


I don't trust maids, or having a staff (if that's how you refer to domestic helpers) living in your space. Never grow up with one anyway. Either hire legal part-time maid, or suck it and juggle your career with chores.

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Re: PR REP Renewal

Postby PNGMK » Fri, 02 Mar 2018 6:54 am

the lynx wrote:
PNGMK wrote:
Wd40 wrote:Many of my colleagues are very trigger happy to hire a maid and send their wives to work. I tell them it is a land mine, be very careful. I let my wife stay at home and do household work, we don't want to get into any kind of mess.

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Yep. Smart man.


I don't trust maids, or having a staff (if that's how you refer to domestic helpers) living in your space. Never grow up with one anyway. Either hire legal part-time maid, or suck it and juggle your career with chores.


Childcare is the breaking point (it was for us). You just need someone in the house so the little buggers don't throw themselves out the window or set it on fire.... and hopefully she's capable of picking them up from school as well.
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Re: PR REP Renewal

Postby American » Tue, 17 Apr 2018 11:44 pm

This is an easy one to solve. Hire an unattractive maid!

Wd40 wrote:Many of my colleagues are very trigger happy to hire a maid and send their wives to work. I tell them it is a land mine, be very careful. I let my wife stay at home and do household work, we don't want to get into any kind of mess.

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Re: PR REP Renewal

Postby PNGMK » Wed, 18 Apr 2018 1:30 pm

American wrote:This is an easy one to solve. Hire an unattractive maid!

Wd40 wrote:Many of my colleagues are very trigger happy to hire a maid and send their wives to work. I tell them it is a land mine, be very careful. I let my wife stay at home and do household work, we don't want to get into any kind of mess.

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I could say something crude but I won't.... instead I'll state that any water in a desert is fit to drink for a thirsty man.
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