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Incredible what I saw ..

Postby ecureilx » Wed, 04 Mar 2015 11:16 pm

22 Feb 2015- I happened to be entering the Burger King at East Coast, when a “south Asian” mother, with her kid of about 2 years, was dashing out of the place,

.. and so happened an Ang Moh father opened the door and his child, about the same age as the SA kid, entered, the SA mum just dashed past, and her kid- banged into the Ang moh kid

What the SA kid did was amazing, she just turned to the ang moh kid, and gave a powerful knock and the ang moh kid started crying, and the SA kid just ran after the mum, the mum who was going ahead with not a worry about where her offspring was .. and was a mile away

I just wonder what makes children so violent at this age .. Shocked, and i didn’t have time to recover from what I saw, or I would have grabbed the violent kid and held her, till her mother comes

And for that matter, the mother was leaving BK after having a verbal duel with the staff .. probably runs in the family !

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Re: Incredible what I saw ..

Postby nakatago » Thu, 05 Mar 2015 6:19 am

ecureilx wrote:22 Feb 2015- I happened to be entering the Burger King at East Coast, when a “south Asian” mother, with her kid of about 2 years, was dashing out of the place,

.. and so happened an Ang Moh father opened the door and his child, about the same age as the SA kid, entered, the SA mum just dashed past, and her kid- banged into the Ang moh kid

What the SA kid did was amazing, she just turned to the ang moh kid, and gave a powerful knock and the ang moh kid started crying, and the SA kid just ran after the mum, the mum who was going ahead with not a worry about where her offspring was .. and was a mile away

I just wonder what makes children so violent at this age .. Shocked, and i didn’t have time to recover from what I saw, or I would have grabbed the violent kid and held her, till her mother comes

And for that matter, the mother was leaving BK after having a verbal duel with the staff .. probably runs in the family !


Yeah, probably the mother has no manners at all and antisocial in the first place. Most likely, the kid never learned good behavior as well. Being South Asian is just coincidence.

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Re: Incredible what I saw ..

Postby rajagainstthemachine » Thu, 05 Mar 2015 9:19 am

nakatago wrote:Yeah, probably the mother has no manners at all and antisocial in the first place. Most likely, the kid never learned good behavior as well. Being South Asian is just coincidence.


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Re: Incredible what I saw ..

Postby JR8 » Thu, 05 Mar 2015 9:30 am

nakatago wrote:Yeah, probably the mother has no manners at all and antisocial in the first place. Most likely, the kid never learned good behavior as well. Being South Asian is just coincidence.


+1 Agree. Children that age (+) get a direct imprint re: 'how to behave' directly from their parents. Ar$ey parents = ar$sey children, since for the child how and however their parents behave is perceived by them as normal. This later often morphs into a phase of temporary teenage rebellion, where they mimic the behaviour of their particularly cohort, group, or gang of school-friends; 'running with the pack'.

Later, usually in parallel with self-reliance/early adulthood, they'll then reset a course back towards their parents 'way' (reinforced by the weekly phone call from the parents to ensure you're doing things the way 'that's best for you' (i.e. their way)). Hence the occasional amused/mocking comment from my wife - 'You're becoming just like your dad! :)'.

Various common idioms allude to this: 'Like father like son'*, and 'A chip off the old block', etc.

... ... mebbe this is why having public 'graciousness campaigns' face such an uphill struggle? Lack of graciousness is deeply imprinted, and if you're constantly supplementing the population with new arrivals, for whom it often seems that graciousness is considered a positive weakness, then... :-k

* 'like father, like son
In the same manner from generation to generation, as in Kevin decided to run for mayor-like father, like son. This ancient proverb has been stated in English in slightly varying versions since the 1300s, sometimes appearing with a counterpart, like mother, like daughter. Thomas Draxe had it in Bibliotheca (1616): "Like father, like son; like mother, like daughter." Also see chip off the old block; follow in someone's footsteps.

http://idioms.thefreedictionary.com/lik ... ,+like+son
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Re: Incredible what I saw ..

Postby ecureilx » Thu, 05 Mar 2015 10:03 am



If it was my kid who was at the receiving end, I would have seriously grabbed the offending kid and held him/her till the parents came over, or called the police (when Police get called for lesser offense)

The ang moh father was more focussed on his kid's crying .. and didn't think of the offending child i guess !

I know what you mean, though ..

If you know any Tamil speaking friends, ask them what is the meaning of Thalaiyil Kottu - that's what I saw !


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