Interesting ..ThuyChi wrote:The reason we're not legally married yet is simple: we are not the marriage type unless the paper becomes absolutely necessary, such as it is in this case (if either our birth country Vietnam or Singapore recognise common law spouse, we can happily skip the paper. Sadly it's not the case).
And, Well, I thought India was badThuyChi wrote:People are not exactly forgiving of alternative lifestyle here in Vietnam either, one must throw a gigantic pointless wedding and produce two to three children right afterwards.
Is that a medical opinion or your own ?ThuyChi wrote:If it's up to us, we won't be getting a ROM nor will we have children (for those who judge, having kids will probably kill me, or at least render me unable to work for a good year or so).
ecureilx wrote:And, Well, I thought India was badThuyChi wrote:People are not exactly forgiving of alternative lifestyle here in Vietnam either, one must throw a gigantic pointless wedding and produce two to three children right afterwards.
It's a medical condition. And the older I get, the more of my friends' children I held, the less I'd like children of my own. Don't get me wrong - I like children, as long as I can give them back to their parents at the end of the day or when things go south. My partner shares the same view - he's good with little humans, but he doesn't want one or two running around all day everyday. My little sister is 12 years younger than me and though I love her to bits, I didn't like her as a baby. She was cute and all, but I was like a mini mama to her and gosh, it wasn't the best experience in life. Couldn't give her back to my parents when things go south either - "You're her big sister, you should be able to take care of her!".ThuyChi wrote:If it's up to us, we won't be getting a ROM nor will we have children (for those who judge, having kids will probably kill me, or at least render me unable to work for a good year or so).
Is that a medical opinion or your own ?
i think the government (or at least the courts) do recognize a common law spouse, but not when the couple are two youngsters and without children... or assets.ThuyChi wrote:I'm currently in Vietnam and have been for about two years after Singapore rejected several of my pass applications for heavens know why. My partner of 7 years is stuck in Singapore paying his NUS student bond.
We're looking at a promotion that will give him over 4k a month. We're thinking once the promotion is confirmed, we'll get a ROM so he can get me a DP. What I am worried about is on paper our relationship would be super duper short prior to DP application (read: the moment we get our ROM cert, he's applying for my DP).
Would that be an issue in ICA's and MOM's eyes? Should we include proof of relationships (flight tickets - we have a mountain of those from every other weekend flights, pictures, friends' statements that we cohabited and neighbours' statements from both countries about how often we pop in from another country to see each other, ect)?
A little background: Both holding Vietnamese passport. Both degree holders, educated in Singapore, though my degree is from a private school, though my diploma is from WDA. He's a chem engine from NUS, working as an engineer as well, has been with the company for over 2 years now. I'm in film and advertising, been working from Vietnam with international teams - not that it seems to count in the gahmen's eyes.
Have been together for 7 years, cohabited from sometimes during our 2nd year together (can't really remember... Don't really keep tracks of these dates, haha) until I moved back to Vietnam two years back. I have his clothes in my house, he has my clothes in his flat, a millions of my pics on his walls, we however don't have joint accounts or official joint bills as we've been more or less separate the bills between us since we cohabited rather than jointly pay them.
The reason we're not legally married yet is simple: we are not the marriage type unless the paper becomes absolutely necessary, such as it is in this case (if either our birth country Vietnam or Singapore recognise common law spouse, we can happily skip the paper. Sadly it's not the case).
We've tried getting him a job with a Singapore payroll but in a country that I can legally reside in long-term - no luck so far. Singapore has been rejecting my pass applications and lately I don't get interviews for full-time positions (therefore no full-time offers, and no pass applications whatsoever), and people in film would know it's not common for us to be committed to a company full-time long-term anyway... It's more of a contract per job basis, and that is so not getting me a pass
Rant over. So, back on the topic, would I be able to get a DP if we apply for it right after our ROM?
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