Null wrote:A friend told me that she felt empty which is why then she decided to go out to have fun, meeting people, but then she was saying she still felt empty.
I must admit, it must be sad to feel empty or lonely when you're in a crowd, but I guess that just shows that crowd is just not the people you want to spend time with or feel comfortable with.
I am a strong believer that the pain of emptyness we all feel is not only normal, but necessary.
There is something missing in our lives. Why is it that we don't have "love" in our lives when we know it exists? Why is it we are hurt by the ones who claim they "love" us? Why do we hurt the people we love?
We don't have to look to far to see that all around us there are examples that we are "off the mark" in our lives, yet no one seems to have the answers.
But there is something strange going on at the same time. If we just turn our head a little to the left and squint our eyes, we can see that there is love all around us. It baffles me.
I have proven to myself time and time again that in EVERY moment I have the choice to say "yes" to being in a state of love and connecting to my immediate environment in a deep and meaningful way. Yet, I find myself on many occasions having my atttention on other things of less importance.
It must be human nature. At least, it is the default mode for humans. We seem to have to struggle to get past it, and it takes great effort. But I am convinced that we do have the possibility to live a life that is not "empty". We spend our lives trying to fill that hole of emptyness with things that are not appropriate. Sex, money, power.... even women (or men if that is your preference).
I do believe that if that hole is filled with what it was designed for, then the lonliness disappears.
And I believe that the filler of the hole is also searching for us. It is all around us, screaming at us, begging us to find it. There is something powerful and wonderful about being alive. Something magical. If only we can learn to re-connect to it. In the meantime, it sits impatiently waiting for us to find it.
That pain and emptiness we all feel is meant to be there. It is the feul to push us to a life of longing for life's gifts. Those who deny its' pain are the ones who are the most lost in life, and I truly feel a sense of loss when speaking to those who say "I never feel lonely or empty". To me, it means they have given up on the search. They have accepted a life of mediocrity and corn flake breakfasts.
Those who feels its' pain the sharpest are the ones who might actually have the strength to stay on the path of searching long enough to find the gold.