sundaymorningstaple wrote:Maybe it time to again resurrect the article I wrote many years ago and was duly given a whole page in The New Paper here. My daughter was around 13 or 14 at the time. So that would make it around 14 years ago. Basically it was an open letter to my daughter at the time....
http://forum.singaporeexpats.com/ftopic31802.html
As an update, the boy in the article didn't last 6 months (I had a feeling in the beginning) and they got an annulment. She remarried last January and I'm keeping my fingers crossed as I actually like the guy a lot.
Maybe Holland Village is boringPrimroseHill wrote:Thank you, sms. The sex, drugs and alchol she is pretty sensible, finger cross. We have always adopted the attitude that we are open about these things. We allow her to drink, a little but under supervision, meaning she is with us. We felt that we had to, in order to educate her on the responsible drinking, after all she is the true born and bred Londoner. In her previous london independent school, a few of the boys & girls have had alcohol poisoning from birthday parties.
We discuss and open about sex, I have told her that if and when she does it, I rather she doesn't make me a grandmother at such a young age; I will take her to a GP to get the pill and the dangers of STI.
We also are very open about drugs since OH was partly educated in the States and according to him it was rather prevalent there during his college days.
It is the off the cuff remarks, the assumptions and snap judgements that she makes. She seems to think that we are in the victorian age or I am ulu because I am a Msian chinese.
Example - 2 evenings ago, she and I were discussing about GST here vs VAT in UK. Then moved onto CPF vs private company pension and state pension UK. After dinner, we sat on the sofa, said nothing, and she flipped - I am bored with SG. Nothing to do, its so overrated. you you always just go to HV wekends for dinner or buy your grocieries from HV.
Yeah, she does kind of have a point. I'd hate to be the teenager pulled away from all of my friends and life in central London and tossed into Singapore. Just compare your concerns vs what the parenting class taught you. Her new peers are probably as alien and 'boring' to her as her HV loving parents.Barnsley wrote:Maybe Holland Village is boringPrimroseHill wrote:Thank you, sms. The sex, drugs and alchol she is pretty sensible, finger cross. We have always adopted the attitude that we are open about these things. We allow her to drink, a little but under supervision, meaning she is with us. We felt that we had to, in order to educate her on the responsible drinking, after all she is the true born and bred Londoner. In her previous london independent school, a few of the boys & girls have had alcohol poisoning from birthday parties.
We discuss and open about sex, I have told her that if and when she does it, I rather she doesn't make me a grandmother at such a young age; I will take her to a GP to get the pill and the dangers of STI.
We also are very open about drugs since OH was partly educated in the States and according to him it was rather prevalent there during his college days.
It is the off the cuff remarks, the assumptions and snap judgements that she makes. She seems to think that we are in the victorian age or I am ulu because I am a Msian chinese.
Example - 2 evenings ago, she and I were discussing about GST here vs VAT in UK. Then moved onto CPF vs private company pension and state pension UK. After dinner, we sat on the sofa, said nothing, and she flipped - I am bored with SG. Nothing to do, its so overrated. you you always just go to HV wekends for dinner or buy your grocieries from HV.
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