h1308 wrote:As I enjoy the clear night with a glass of red in my hand, I am drawn in to some reflection... have got quite a few experiences already in the three months that my little one and I have been here. So was wondering if it is me or the city?
Being a single parent is tough, but rewarding, very rewarding. However, am not sure how many people in this city (or our materialistic world) appreciate this? Now this is not to solicit emails for meetups, but I thought that in a new city, a single father will have at least some chance to make new friends for his daughter and for himself. But so far, I've had almost zero success, and many dates cancelled at the last minutes (most on me, a couple on my kiddo as well.) But today, I had two canceled, which is what prompted me to reflect:
1. Will it be different for two parent family to meet new people in Singapore?
2. What about single mother (I suppose for single mothers, there might be a queue of men waiting for a date- considering how tough and yet gentle the mother will have to be- something I truly appreciate.)
3. Am I doing something wrong? What would you have done in my situation? I've contacted old friends - both with and without kids with moderate success, office mates- with zero success, random people in the building with almost zero success, and this forum- again with zero success.
Thoughts welcome. Well reflected thoughts truly appreciated.
Let the talk begin.
By the way, meetup.com is available in Singapore...yogaloungeforever wrote:I am sorry to hear of your predicament. As mentioned by some of the forumers here, I have to agree it's not easy to find people who are decent and acceptable of a single parent in Singapore (actually I have to admit, it's tough being a single parent in Asia). I was in Europe for a long time and tho I am still single in Singapore, I find it harder to meet people (girls / guys) here than in Europe. In the UK it would be easier to go on Meet-up.com and there I will be able to find like-minded career people at my age who are also on the look-out for a great social life. In Asia, especially the women-folk, they are mostly married before their 30s and already with a family of their own. The ones who are still single don't see Friday / Saturday nights out as a great time to meet people. Asian people in general are homely people. As for Asian men / women, unless he's western-educated, it would not be easy to find one who will accept a single mum. The local men / women seem to view single parent as a no-go simply because they can't see themselves being a father / mother to someone else's children. I guess it is the culture and mind set. As for the single white / caucasian men, I have to agree that most of them here have caught the yellow fever. But speaking to them you will realise why. I keep getting told that they want a woman who is not so career-minded and will take care of him! Like some of the suggestions forwarded by some forumers here, you might want to start slow by attending classes or events. Maybe, you might want to consider online dating. At least, your marital status is stated upfront.
the lynx wrote: By the way, meetup.com is available in Singapore...
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