durain wrote:parents will always moan about you not marrying a muslim. dont let that stop you. once they see that you are happy in your marriage, they will understand why you did it. marrying a muslim is not going to make you any happier.
as taxico wrote, your parents will understand over time. go for it.
Its true what Durain said that happiness is not measured based on race nor religion.Its not easy to find someone you love and loves you back and my fiance did just that.
I know what im doing is a big leap of faith and it worries my family especially when i choose to be with a non muslim.Like everyone else here already said,marrying muslim without converting is the biggest sin and forever god will forbid you from entering heaven unless you repent.Even so,if i really end up marrying my fiance that means i will be the first in my generation to marry someone out of the race and religion plus the first ever to leave malaysia to settle down in a faraway land.Its not helping that my father is a retired religious teacher and well known among friends and relatives as a truely pious man.my family will definitely be so ashamed to face others when their daughter left to marry a so called christian.Oh well....
No matter what happens i will never forget my family especially my mother.She might be utterly upset with me but she is one of the person i love the most in this world.
As for my ex friend..it might probably part of the reason she's told my mother was partly derived by jealousy.When i first broke the news bout my relationship and showed her a pictures of my fiance,she dint even bother to take a look let alone smile or laugh indicating that she's happy for me.It doesnt help for her when her relationship with the boyfriend was not doing good.A woman to woman relationship is far complicated compared with the opposite gender as there's alot of emotion involved.Im sad to have such a good friend to end up this way.I used to stayed by her all the time giving her courage when she was dumped by her ex and all she did all day was nothing except lying on bed.I also taught her mother on how to withdraw money from the ATM,accompanied her to the bank and even waited while she's going through counselling when her marriaged was in limbo more than 5 years ago.Well...life goes on..
As i said earlier,happiness is not measured on race or religion or in other words love is blind.I have been with a muslim man before but the relationship dint survive..also been with other local men but was dumped and got cheated.My fiance has done so much for this relationship to go this far.Before i applied for K1,i did go for tourist visa but did not succed.My fiance tried hard by asking for lawyers help,wrote letter to the senator,even at one point a letter to Obama (of course Obama was too busy to be bothered by a stupid problems like)
When i was sick he took care of me.He even forgave me when i lied to him bout my identity when we first met.In fact he is more excited bout my arrival more than i do..he told everyone he knows and already started to buy new furniture for the bedroom such as dresser,hangers,beddings even before im going for my interview.He was so confident im gonna pass my interview when i was nervous.Well im in love with him and of course i could go on and on talking all the good things bout him.I finally found my happiness and the guy i have been looking for and in my heart i know whats best for me and i need to do.
Early tomorrow i be leaving for KL and even if i dint get my visa at least i have given my hardest.Thank you for all the best wishes from all of you here.Sorry for all the long explanation as some of might be put off by my long story..Cheers folks
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