Who need parents like that? Its a new life for YOU not them, if your parents don't trust you, then that's their own doing and you are better of without them.NeSSa81 wrote:ya i m an adult..but if i go ahead with the wedding my parents wont give me the blessing even my dad did said if i don't he will disown me...i dun want to b someone without parents...
Yes, yes. So predictible - SE shaking his finger at me again. You give your opinion and liken a company someone endorses to 'a bucket of warm spit' but somehow I'm not supposed to give my opinion, or even raise a few questions. You are too damn much SE. Have a nice long weekend, I think you may need it.Strong Eagle wrote:Both RNT and QRM show a lot of hubris by attacking the poster over her choice... and choice of words. You know nothing of circumstance and nothing of the culture but nonetheless feel comfortable in chastising based upon your own cultural circumstance.
Don't get me wrong... in the larger sense I agree that she has a choice... and would hope that changing cultural and social mores will make a difference in the future.
'Attack' was indeed the correct choice of words... just as you have chosen to attack me by choosing to include my other alleged 'transgressions' in this post rather than defend your position and your post to the lady.road.not.taken wrote:Yes, yes. So predictible - SE shaking his finger at me again. You give your opinion and liken a company someone endorses to 'a bucket of warm spit' but somehow I'm not supposed to give my opinion, or even raise a few questions. You are too damn much SE. Have a nice long weekend, I think you may need it.Strong Eagle wrote:Both RNT and QRM show a lot of hubris by attacking the poster over her choice... and choice of words. You know nothing of circumstance and nothing of the culture but nonetheless feel comfortable in chastising based upon your own cultural circumstance.
Don't get me wrong... in the larger sense I agree that she has a choice... and would hope that changing cultural and social mores will make a difference in the future.
And please, can you please be more careful with your words? 'Attack' ?? come on...
SE I never get you wrong, but in your own word "hope that changing cultural and social mores will make a difference in the future" would you not say by encouraging the poster to think out of the box is a way of making her or other in the similar spot aware that there is an alternative. Whether she chooses to take that path is up to her, she has already chosen it for her kids.Strong Eagle wrote: Don't get me wrong... in the larger sense I agree that she has a choice... and would hope that changing cultural and social mores will make a difference in the future.
Exactly QRM. There is no harm in opening up a few possibilities, presenting a few alternatives. Nessa can do whatever she likes with the information, regardless of her cultural, socio-economic or religious background. This is a forum where ideas are exchanged by people from many backgrounds.QRM wrote: but in your own word "hope that changing cultural and social mores will make a difference in the future" would you not say by encouraging the poster to think out of the box is a way of making her or other in the similar spot aware that there is an alternative. Whether she chooses to take that path is up to her, she has already chosen it for her kids
I'm sorry if you see my posts as attacks SE. I am not a positive person for the sake of maintaing false peace or the semblance of cordiality. Disingenuous is not my strong suit. In my dictionary the entry for attack is: to set upon in a forceful, violent, hostile, or aggressive way, with or without a weapon; begin fighting with. I just don't see that here. Perhaps you'll PM me if you wish to discuss specific posts you felt were attacks or which demonstrated my defensiveness, but in the meantime please know: I post from the heart and not for what other's think, that's their business. Not mine.Strong Eagle wrote:'Attack' was indeed the correct choice of words... just as you have chosen to attack me by choosing to include my other alleged 'transgressions' in this post rather than defend your position and your post to the lady.
I know you can't see how you look to others but possibly if you could step out of your highly defensive position for just a moment you might catch a glimpse of what I and others have called you on.
Cheers.
I think you might have made the inference that I hope for a change for Nessa as well, but that's implying one step too far for my motivation. I only hope to raise her awareness that there are options. That there is a wide range of viewpoints out there, and one always has options. That she is allowing her parents to take advantage of her, she is not a victim.And that's how I see it. I want to see change. I want to see women free from wearing burkhas
Then explain in more details for those that don't understand. It makes sense if the parents are still bankrolling you but if you are an adult with your own income and home, why let them control your life?kaseyma wrote:No it isn't.road.not.taken wrote:Better to be without parents than without your own life.
In your "culture" it may be OK, but it's not for most here, nor in Asia in general.
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