There are many lonely people around and age isn't the prime factor for loneliness....so at 22, I would assume you are a little shy or introverted, loneliness for me, was more of an emotional ache, of missing my mother who sadly passed away many moons ago.
I personally found being single a blast, I loved it so much until i was around 50, although I was and am quite active, my biggest problem was identifying where i belong too, which Country can I call my home, when i love so many of the Countries and feel at home with the people.
Having travelled constantly from the age of 18, I have met loads of nice people, that assume we are friends, it's kind of one sided, although I wouldn't hesitate to help any of them, to a certain extent, my deep thought process tells me, they are not true friends.
Then my time is taken up, with true friends, what is true friends, when the people i call friends are falling in and out with me all the time, and occasionally they are so temperamental in nature, they may even stop speaking for 6 months.
My analysis is that i am far from perfect, and try to be a positive person most of the time, in fact I prefer positive people to negative types, although i am very tolerant, and they normally break the friendship before myself. After 6 months a part, the batteries are regenerated, and we finally agree, that we can only tolerate so much of each other, because we are, who we are.
Handling loneliness is not easy, and in fact can be mentally challenging, even scary, that one is loosing ones marbles, to thought processes.
This is a time when one should find an occupation to take the mind away from the complications of human behaviour and life in general, do the things, you really want to do, like scream at the top of your voice, and say F---k it all!
Believe me it helps...getting married again doesn't!
Although i love my wife no end, I do miss my single life, lucky for me i manage to have a break away to recharge my batteries, it's really tough trying to please others, they take you for granted all the time, AND SLEEP ON THE COUCH quite often, the daily routines, are just that.
So alone in my bed, I consider life as a single, yes it's lonely, but it's heaven not having a nagging partner, not that mine nags at all, even that would be a waste of energy, and she needs all the energy to earn her living, god bless her!
Can one be married and feel lonely, the answer is yes, sometimes it's intellectual challenging, when talking to another, only to find out that nothing registers, not the other parties interest.
But it's comforting to know, that one is around to organise the burial, and pay for the p--s up and spend all the cash when you have departed from this planet, it's just sad, that another is waiting to jump in the bed, when you have departed and to know they are living it up on all your hard earned cash.
Not much chance of that happening to me
The good points V's the bad, equal weighting I believe, so better to be single, because variety is the spice of life
My advice to males, is to find a rich woman, My advice to females is to find a rich man. My advice to all, never get caught out by the other, especially in divorce
I'm surprised someone with lots of activities and good job feels lonely, even if all your friends are now married off, go and visit them, I'm sure they will welcome you with open arms, well one half of the family anyway, then you get to see the screaming kids, and the shitty nappies, hardly in Singapore SMS would say!
So why get married?
Life is truly very short indeed, and if you have been close to death, you will soon realise, that loneliness is not really an issue, it's how to make up for the time you have left, I read the obituary occasionally and feel sad, when people have passed away so young in life, the family is suffering, there is an emptiness, that cannot be filled, like when ones parents depart.
It's all mental disturbance, that disrupts the mind, so maybe yoga, or other alternative relaxing ways, may help, but most of all, the power to remain positive is mind over matter, pure will power is the key, which does take training and something I would recommend for self development and independence in young single people.
Doing what your heart tells you to do, is not always the way to cope with loneliness, because of our biorhythms and understanding of psychological needs.
One needs to be independent and rational in thought, when making important steps, that change our lives, as teenagers we do not understand the emotions of love, pain and suffering, we just feel the effects, without dealing with them correctly.
My philosofy in life is that i can do anything i set my heart on, but i need to work towards those goals, I'm not a quitter, I'm not super intelligent, and I'm not wealthy, but i have gained lots of enlightenment, through my journeys, that life is a caberet old chum, so enjoy it while you can.
There is no need whatsoever for anyone to suffer, if they have control of their goals, so the plan is not to over do things, but to control what you do, self discipline is a must, to kickstart your will power, especially if you do not like what you have to do, to reach the goal. Look for strength from the inside and not the outside live alone, to know the difference, between Single and partnership. To move from one relationship to another doesn't hack it, and only makes it more painful.
Humans are very adaptable to situations including love and war, so many live the lie, because they adapt to the life, they are indifferent to the life, and don't know about living alone in most cases. It is not easy to live alone, and it is neither easy to live with a crowd of people, so partner looks attractive until you discover the real person, which has been hiding away.
I have the ability to walk out and drink for 3 days, my wife doesn't really know me...I know i can and would do it if in that frame of mind. I may even go walk about and come back in a week if pushed, so adjusting we all do it to a certain extent to please the opposite. One that nags one into change will have no chance, it's not a possiblity in the long run, because the pyschy will snap, run or live in fear, change nope!