That was the first thing that came to mind after I read SMS' post.But maybe that's not a reason to not text date, just a reason to keep dating but never marry and live together.
That is like so sweet, Jules. You make me feel like so old though, because I don't like normally talk this way. Guess I have to like get used to it if I want to like groove with the young hip people...julinico wrote:Thanks for replying, WIMH and SMS. You both are like the very first 2 persons who talked to me in this forum...
Texting gives more personal space than calling, which is one reason why I like it. I can't see any reason why it shouldn't be a big part of a relationship today.
WIMH, the above quote, while a valid statement in of itself, doesn't state is how many of these commuter marriages were initially commuter marriages from the start (commuter dating turned into marriage). Maybe the book clarifies, but I haven't read it so don't know. Space, like sexual tension can be a double edged sword. I'd be interested in statistical data on the 'actual' success ratio of commuter marriages but that probably can't be found unless a long term study were done. Probably the only reason it appear to work is that those they see obviously are ongoing. What reason would there be to stay in that kind of relationship if it wasn't working. How many no longer exist. And, as there aren't any 'legal' documents to support commuter dating there cannot be any statistics either."Perhaps one reason why these marriages seem to be working is that people really have to appreciate each other to tolerate a commuter marriage - and yet the special feeling of being together, something easily lost in one-house marriages, is constantly renewed. In addition, they afford a degree of space and privacy that conventional marriages don't have - and that space may just be the pressure valve that gives these marriages an equal or better chance of success, in a world where divorce is the norm."
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