Reminds me of the movie Juno. I watched it on a plane as there was nothing else I wanted to see - expected it to be a silly teenage flick but it was actually quite good and addresses exactly this situation, except that everyone was within driving distance of each other and not the surrogate away in India.sillingw wrote:Except, in the intervening 9 months, the couple separates and/or gets divorced
Not as great a disaster as not being able to feed her children. And not as great a disaster as going into prostitution, selling a kidney, giving away or selling a child, or taking older children out of school to start working to supplement the family income... Disasters are relative, aren't they?sillingw wrote:As Hithnar says "For a woman's body a pregnancy is a disaster" is it not a disaster for the surrogate mother's body?
I guess that is what worries me, women don't often go into prostitution voluntarily, I think similar things will happen in this area, If my wife said to me it would be a disaster for her body and therefore we should pay someone else to submit to that disaster, I would feel really uncomfortable - If my wife could not have kids, it would be more understandable, but I would still feel uncomfortable. I think, unless it's really well regulated, with clear laws, it will become just another way for unscrupulous people to take advantage of unfortunate people - come to think of it, it's probably already happeningWind In My Hair wrote:Not as great a disaster as not being able to feed her children. And not as great a disaster as going into prostitution, selling a kidney, giving away or selling a child, or taking older children out of school to start working to supplement the family income... Disasters are relative, aren't they?sillingw wrote:As Hithnar says "For a woman's body a pregnancy is a disaster" is it not a disaster for the surrogate mother's body?
I think that as long as all parties are willing, it is a fair arrangement. What would make it wrong is when a woman's husband or family forces her into surrogacy against her will.
I edited my post as you were posting, so you probably didn't see my last sentence which I added, that I agree it's a real danger.sillingw wrote:I guess that is what worries me, women don't often go into prostitution voluntarily, I think similar things will happen in this area
I would certainly be very uncomfortable if my wife, or in this case I, felt that the disaster of bodily breakdown outweighed the disaster of giving up the 9 months of bonding with my child in the womb. Also I may be wrong but I think the pain of childbirth in a weird way makes a woman love her child more than if she didn't have to go through any pain at all.sillingw wrote:If my wife said to me it would be a disaster for her body and therefore we should pay someone else to submit to that disaster, I would feel really uncomfortable
Like giving /selling blood, these days you don't get people on dark street corners offering you a fiver for a pint of blood. Once, or if, it becomes an accepted way of producing children, it will be regulated, then the unscrupulous will vanish as there's no easy money to be made. As long as the practice remains in the Moral and Legal Grey area people will take advantage of the situation.sillingw wrote:
I think, unless it's really well regulated, with clear laws, it will become just another way for unscrupulous people to take advantage of unfortunate people - come to think of it, it's probably already happening
that would require quality assurance to swing both ways in one operation.QRM wrote:Outsourcing procreation happens all the time in orchard towersbanana wrote:Jeebus Harold Christ. Am I conservative for thinking this is a terrible idea? Outsourcing procreation? Really? What next,
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