Thanks, however that's advocating a non-military approach, all the same food for another thread if I can be bothered or have time to start one.
Could it also explain your pacifist attitude? I have never seen you resort to strong language or exegeration to make your point. You have always come across as being balanced and measured in your response, and still able to get your point across. This forum would be a much calmer and peaceful place if we have more posters like you. I would say you parent did a fine job with you. Their parenting style is well suited to your temperament. However, there are people born inherently violent in nature and need a certain amount of physical input to learn respect and boundaries.micknlea wrote:I've gotten a couple of strokes on the palm for stuff like mischief and failure to memorise my spelling lists and I still thank her for that.
You thank her for caning you? Why? You were so badly behaved that you wouldn't have done it otherwise? You are saying this tongue in cheek aren't you?
Funnily enough we didn't have caning or anything like it as I grew up, at school or at home, but still I managed to follow the rules etc. My parents instilled in me the rights and wrongs of life without the need for violence.
If screaming is her forte, perhaps she should consider a career singing in the opera! I believe adults should set a good example for young kids, moreso since she is an educator. If I am a teacher, I will strive to be good, not only in the subject that I teach but in my manners as well. Do we as a society, set our bar so low as to allow rude behaviours so long as she performs her basic job function? It is a bit like saying it is OK for the Enron executives to be usurping the funds so long as they are bringing in good revenue for the company. Not the best analogy but you get the idea.Petales Soufflez! wrote:My son's teacher (here in the International School in Italy) was fired because she screamed (too often) at the kids. I didn't care if she screamed as long as she did her job. But the other parents just couldn't take anything any more.
Your kids can compete in the area of good manners and social graces. They can teach the other asian kids how to have better manners .Petales Soufflez! wrote: But the other parents just couldn't take anything any more. And those kids are just good for computer games and play dates and less homework. When you think that kids in Asia are working harder than ever, how are my kids going to compete?
Yeah, that's the crux of it isn't it. It's the free will that we have that let's us do exactly those things you just mentioned. We read about them in the papers all the time don't we. So are we that far removed, or as EF said, higher up in the hierarchy, intellectually, from the giraffe? Or, is it only a triggering mechanism that is needed to set off our baser instincts? The so called evils (I can only guess that is what you consider them as you seem to think them as undesirable traits - I'm not disagreeing with you here), would seem to me, are a part of everybody and like feats of superhuman strength in a crisis, would reside in each and every one of us. The only thing missing is the relevant trigger to bring it to the fore.road.not.taken wrote: but that does not mean I need to eat my own young, murder my mate after copulation, or steal another's infant. We are after all, gifted with more than just opposable thumbs, we are supposed to have free will as well.
Addadude wrote:I have absolutely no problems with Singapore caning the criminals it does. None at all. I wish more Western countries (including my own) would adopt this 'barbaric' practice.
I DO however have a BIG problem with the physical punishment of children OTHER than by their parents.
However when it comes to corporal punishment in schools, I am in total disagreement. A teacher or headmaster has no right to physically punish any child other than their own.
In general i would expect the above to be the norm, but individual tolerance levels play a major role. Personal experience goes much further than the armchair critic with no kids, and also beyond the parent, that has never experienced difficult children, one may say what is a difficult child, and the answer will be a varied response from parents with different tolerance levels.EF: It is only used as a last resort when all means have been exhuasted. And it is only done after ample warning and opportunity for them to correct their behaviours
EADG: I recall my mother taking me back to school because i came home with my shirt ripped, my mother went ballistic in the classroom and in front of the headmaster too, she threatend to wipe the floor with the teacher, I found it rather embarassing but all the kids loved it, they were shouting go on Mrs do it, my mothers little Welsh temper, wasn't to be messed with, she had bisceps like arnoldTouch my kid? He's got my permission to get you back.
I also think it sets children on the wrong path, legitimizing them to do this to their peers and underlings, and, they will harbor hate in them which could fester for years and they make want to take it out on the very people who delivered it.
I never said you did, we are at a slight mis-understanding you did actually say National Service which I took to mean military since at the time I hadn't seen the clip. My apologies for the error.ScoobyDoes wrote:
Can't remember when i split the definition of military and non-military National Service
In a 'controlled manner?' What are you talking about? I still remember my school days, that was hardly a controlled manner. However, you are welcome to your archaic philosophies.Wind In My Hair wrote: The suggestion that those of us who were caned (in a controlled manner by loving and well-meaning parents, as opposed to abusive out-of-control ones) when younghave turned out to find violence acceptable, or perhaps even practise it ourselves, is insulting. It's also rather unintelligent, again being a judgment in a vacuum with no regard for truth.
I can imagine, before taking the cane out of the closet, them saying something like 'this is going to hurt me more than it will you' or 'this is for your own good'.Wind In My Hair wrote:..... those...who were caned...in a controlled manner by loving and well-meaning parents....
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