Hmmn.. i see this comment a lot as well.. here and the other site..and i wonder what is it that makes us 'decide' its a wind up there and then.. is it because we cannot fathom that there are people out there with these issues? Is it because we feel revolted that they had the 'audacity' to post here in the first place? I guess we just observe huh?Eric from the Netherlands wrote:come on people, the OP is just trying to get people flaming eachother here... Big windup.
Eric
Look at it on the bright side - if you shack up with your cousin, there won't be any of those awkward "meet the family" dinnersallreminder wrote:I'm a normal, decent man. I have a girlfriend of 8 years. I have no inclination to incest and I find it disgusting and immoral. But something disturbing is happening to me. I have this deep immerse crush for this very lovely and beautiful girl. Unfortunately, she's a direct cousin of mine.
She is 3 years younger then I am. We seldom see each other, since her family is estrange from us. The last time i saw her, we were still students in jc and sec sch respectively. During that time, she was already so cute and adorable that I spent next few weeks thinking and masturbating to her. Years went by, and i got on with my life....
.... Until recently, I met her again. Instant attraction. How much she has grown. But still that ever lovely. I could feel it deep within me, the strange feeling of crush, love and lust. She came from a broken family, and i can see the sadness in her. I so wanted to be close to her, be her confidant, take care of her, hug her, and of couse make love to her. It's affecting me. I dream of her frequently, and started masturbating to her. When having sex with my girlfriend, i fantasize i'm doing with this cousin of mine. Now I'm thinking of dumping my girlfriend and going after my lovely cousin.
God is cruel. She's my dream girl, yet she's also my cousin. Thing is, i don't see her as my cousin. She's this mysterious and ice cool, yet fragile and lovely girl that appears from time to time in my life, and everytime she appears, it'll affect me deeply.
What are the chances of marriage between cousins working out? Anyone has similar experience? Seriously confused...
It is very true about point 1. For an 18 year old, I can speak with it...its really very tiring but as long as you know its worth it and you think you can work it out...go for it...if you jus twant her for sexual pleasures...drop that idea...Baron Greenback wrote:I have a funny feeling that it is legal to marry your 1st cousin (in the UK anyway). Something to do with when they made the law they said you can't marry 2nd or 3rd cousins & assumed that people would autoimatically included 1st cousins - but they didn't.
To OP you basically have 2 options:
1. Talk to your cousin & tell her how you feel - if she feels the same way then you have the massive obsticle of your family to deal with; expect to be disowned. If she doesn't, case closed.
2. Stop fantisizing about her, it isn't helping. Fantisies are good & all but only if they are fantiasies & not possible of becoming true. So think of supermodels instead. You are associating her with feelings of pleasure, so when you see her you remember the pleasure, not good dude.
Baron Greenback wrote:I have a funny feeling that it is legal to marry your 1st cousin (in the UK anyway). Something to do with when they made the law they said you can't marry 2nd or 3rd cousins & assumed that people would autoimatically included 1st cousins - but they didn't.
To OP you basically have 2 options:
1. Talk to your cousin & tell her how you feel - if she feels the same way then you have the massive obsticle of your family to deal with; expect to be disowned. If she doesn't, case closed.
2. Stop fantisizing about her, it isn't helping. Fantisies are good & all but only if they are fantiasies & not possible of becoming true. So think of supermodels instead. You are associating her with feelings of pleasure, so when you see her you remember the pleasure, not good dude.
i'm very much like that guy rather than ur sister...i'm the mummy's girl...not that we want to have sex on purpose...but we are still human beings...we could've been normal couples like others, improving relationship in anyways, including sex. but not point dwelling on issues like 'oh, i don't agree with you having sex with ur family member'. number 1. its been done... number 2. we are like normal couples, the only difference is we are relatives. in our case, we aren't very much like other cousin couples who have met eacho hter since young, or know each other at all..reenita wrote:geezzz....i dont agree with the part ure thinking about her when ure having sex wih ure girlfriend!!!thats not nice....
personally i dont recommend cause :
1. Shes ure family member:anything happends to ure relationship...(if ever)will get the whole relatives talking about you.
2. Her parents and ures will be in an akward position.
3. Children will have some kind of disease or retardeness..For example if i have talassemia and my cousin has also then our children will have chronic talassemia and lead to death..
My sis dated a cousin once..they confessed their relationship to both their parents...and in the end the relationship ended bitterly...cause the guys side was strongly against it. he was a coward and couldnt leave his parents for my sis and went to be with another girl of his parents choice..in the end my sis was badly hurt!
Things like that involve lots of emotion and be sensitive to ure girlfriend and that cousin of ures...remember ure gonna hurt this girls and could be yourself..so its not worth it!
i forgot to include, i m a lady not a man...reenita wrote:geezzz....i dont agree with the part ure thinking about her when ure having sex wih ure girlfriend!!!thats not nice....
personally i dont recommend cause :
1. Shes ure family member:anything happends to ure relationship...(if ever)will get the whole relatives talking about you.
2. Her parents and ures will be in an akward position.
3. Children will have some kind of disease or retardeness..For example if i have talassemia and my cousin has also then our children will have chronic talassemia and lead to death..
My sis dated a cousin once..they confessed their relationship to both their parents...and in the end the relationship ended bitterly...cause the guys side was strongly against it. he was a coward and couldnt leave his parents for my sis and went to be with another girl of his parents choice..in the end my sis was badly hurt!
Things like that involve lots of emotion and be sensitive to ure girlfriend and that cousin of ures...remember ure gonna hurt this girls and could be yourself..so its not worth it!
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