korosensei wrote: ↑Wed, 09 Oct 2024 3:21 amI’ve been lurking around this forum for 10 years now. I’ve been an aspiring PR for a decade, with my PR application still pending for a year. Now, I’m contemplating whether to stay here any longer, but my husband won’t let me leave Singapore. I feel like I’ve missed so many opportunities just waiting for a PR application that isn’t even guaranteed. I received two job offers from New Zealand, which would have paid me twice as much as my current salary, but I turned them down because my husband said to wait for the PR application results. But it’s still pending, and there’s no certainty about the outcome.
Now, I’ve received another offer from the same company in New Zealand, and this time they’ve increased the offer to three times the original amount. I really want to accept it, but my husband insists on waiting for the PR results. This process is taking so long, and I feel like I’ve missed so many opportunities waiting for something that isn’t even certain. I’m just venting. My job role here is very niche, and it’s also niche in New Zealand, which is why they keep offering me these opportunities.
I have known many Malaysian Chinese who have the same mindset… very conservative. They convert their earnings to MYR and it feels like a CEO salary. Also, there may be a cultural element of the man wanting to be the breadwinner.korosensei wrote: ↑Wed, 09 Oct 2024 1:56 pmFurther to my previous response, my husband is Malaysian Chinese, and he told me he is uncomfortable with the idea of migrating to another country where he would have to start from scratch. I’m the only one who has received a job offer, and he’s unsure if he can find a job there quickly. My husband is an Electrical Professional Engineer (PE) in Singapore.
You don't have to be sorry I think most Indians are proud about this and look at it as a virtue to preserve their culture and identity.malcontent wrote: ↑Sat, 12 Oct 2024 1:28 pmI believe korosensei is from the Philippines, and Filipinos are some of the most adaptable people on the planet, able to move far away and assimilate faster and easier than most. The fact that so many Filipinos do this means they are never alone, and the idea of doing this is ingrained since young. Just about every Filipino has a few relatives living abroad.
I am sorry to say this, but my Indian friends would agree… Indians are some of the least adaptive, and tend to stick to their own culture and even food when they go abroad. Not everyone, of course, but this even shows up in US census data, where Indian females are the least likely among all Asians to marry outside of their race.
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