Singapore Expats Forum

Wives who lunch - Is this normal or Expat only?

A moderated forum for serious discussions only.
Post Reply
User avatar
carteki
Editor
Editor
Posts: 1237
Joined: Mon, 28 Apr 2008 11:03 pm
Location: Singapore
Contact:

Wives who lunch - Is this normal or Expat only?

Post by carteki » Sat, 12 May 2012 6:20 pm

I've been traveling for work in another expat city and trying to connect some of the expats living here so that I have somewhere to go other than the hotel (safety is an issue so just going out by myself is not possible).

One of the ladies I connected with was a wife whose husband is working here and she invited me along to some of their events - but they all take place during office hours which means I can't attend them. It reminded me of when I first moved to Singapore and I joined the Saffer society to connect with people. The person who ran the society took offence that I thought in reality it should be called "the trailing wives of south african husbands who work club" because all their events happened during office hours. She thought that 1 pub night a month and 3 weekend functions a year were sufficient to encompass the needs of the members that worked, while averaging one function a week during office hours for those who didn't work.
I experienced the same in Qatar where there is a definite distinction between women who work and those who stay at home (taking into account in South Africa where both parents work is the norm). Even at joint functions there is little interaction between the 2 camps.
Having lived most of my life in an expat enviroment I don't know if this is how "normal" people live. I know that singles complain that marrieds don't hang out with them and know that once there are children you are lucky to see your friends (if you don't happen to have kids).

User avatar
x9200
Moderator
Moderator
Posts: 9400
Joined: Mon, 07 Sep 2009 4:06 pm
Location: Singapore

Post by x9200 » Sat, 12 May 2012 6:50 pm

Sounds like a norm. My wife was being invited to this kind of functions at the time she was in transition to her full time job. Another common denominator was probably living more downtown to create some critical wifey mass for the club.

User avatar
QRM
Manager
Manager
Posts: 1831
Joined: Mon, 17 Oct 2005 5:23 pm
Location: Nassim hill

Post by QRM » Sat, 12 May 2012 7:03 pm

Not forgetting the husbands who lunch? Bunch of us stay at home dads also meet up. Office hours means the places are not crowded and you can have that smug I don't work look. , Though the bloke versions tend to do more adventure sort of lunches, Golf, bike, boat trip etc.

User avatar
poodlek
Reporter
Reporter
Posts: 878
Joined: Mon, 10 May 2010 3:48 pm
Location: Taipa, Macau
Contact:

Post by poodlek » Sat, 12 May 2012 7:48 pm

That's normal for here I think, but definitely not normal in Canada. I don't think I've met any women not of retirement age who willingly stay home unless it is to care for the kids, or they work from home. In either case they're usually too busy to meet up regularly for lunches.
I attended a couple of these events here before my son was born but I didn't really enjoy the company very much. It was ok to stave off utter boredom, but only just ok.

User avatar
sundaymorningstaple
Moderator
Moderator
Posts: 36163
Joined: Thu, 11 Nov 2004 1:26 pm
Location: Retired on the Little Red Dot

Post by sundaymorningstaple » Sat, 12 May 2012 8:26 pm

Yeah, We're much better company! :cool:

User avatar
poodlek
Reporter
Reporter
Posts: 878
Joined: Mon, 10 May 2010 3:48 pm
Location: Taipa, Macau
Contact:

Post by poodlek » Sun, 13 May 2012 12:45 am

sundaymorningstaple wrote:Yeah, We're much better company! :cool:
You really are! :-)

User avatar
carteki
Editor
Editor
Posts: 1237
Joined: Mon, 28 Apr 2008 11:03 pm
Location: Singapore
Contact:

Post by carteki » Sun, 13 May 2012 2:15 am

poodlek wrote:
sundaymorningstaple wrote:Yeah, We're much better company! :cool:
You really are! :-)
+1

User avatar
Asian_Geekette
Reporter
Reporter
Posts: 558
Joined: Wed, 10 Jan 2007 4:07 pm
Location: Still based in Singapore but wanders around...

Post by Asian_Geekette » Sat, 19 May 2012 11:07 pm

carteki wrote:
poodlek wrote:
sundaymorningstaple wrote:Yeah, We're much better company! :cool:
You really are! :-)
+1
+1 :)
My business is not to remake myself, but make the absolute best out of what God made. -Robert Browning

Post Reply


  • Similar Topics
    Replies
    Views
    Last post

Return to “Strictly Speaking”

Who is online

Users browsing this forum: No registered users and 2 guests